How can I discipline my 6 years old? She's not listening to me anymore.?

Answer 1

I went through this when my daughter was five, and honestly it's because I was not consistent. You have to be consistent, give one warning only, and act. The corner worked great on her (sometimes I had to hold her there) and I also take things away, and put them where she can see them but not get them, keep them for 1 day and 1 night and she has to behave for that time to get them back, if she acts up again take another (once she had 10 thing up there in one day). They also need to be things she really likes, sometimes I pick 3 things and make her pick the one to give up, it makes her realize a little more that she is losing it because of her actions. It will be rough for a few months, but she will get it and it will be much better for both of you. And once she is behaving better don't slack off or you will set yourself back a mile. No matter how tired, or frustrated you are get up and act after the 1 warning.
Good Luck and remember to reinforce to her when she is being good that you love her. My daughter is sooo sweet but incredibly long on stubborn, and she is also sensitive so a few words of encouragement go a long way.
Also, my daughter is now 6 and still if she is behind on sleep her behavior is 10x worse, sometimes even a half hour nap can make a big difference in the way a kid acts.

Answer 2

It depends on what is the issue, how important it is, and what she does.

If she is just ignoring you, that is disrespectful. It is easier to teach her now than later, so I would start by taking away priviledges (if you don't do this, no TV, or a favorite game confiscated) - then follow through with your menace.

If you can do that once or twice, she will stop.

THe worse you can do is to menace, menace then forget about it because you feel sorry for her, or to hit her. In my opinion, hitting teaches the wrong message "I have to respect her because she is big and mean".

A couple of times, when my kid (11) has left the room in a mess, I picked up everything and stored it away in a garbage back (that she got back after a week), or else, thrown everything in the middle of the room, and forbid for the child to get out until it is sorted out properly. That worked.

Another way is to give her lines to copy: "I will not anger my mom again" 30 times is quite irritating - and you can always up it to 200 if really bad. She will also learn some writing skills like that... and once that is done, you can upgrade her to copying a page of the local dictionary... you'll have an obedient and cultured child.

Answer 3

As a parent - you continue to discipline a child until they leave the home!!! Remember, YOU are the parent - NOT her!!!
Take privileges away from her. Remove everything from her room, except for the bed and dresser. When she can prove she's listening and being good - then slowly give her things back to her.
My son, and daughter-in-law, recently tried something new with their three girls (age 8 and twins at 10). They have three quart sized empty jars and bags of marbles. Everytime a girls does something, over and beyond their normal chores, they receive a marble. Once the jar is full - they go on a special 'mommy' or 'daddy' date. So far, he has taken one to lunch and a movie. She has taken one out for shopping and a trip to an ice cream parlor.
Right now, I'm thinking they should add another choice; a special 'grandma' date...............

Answer 4

I am going through the same thing with my six year old son. For me, it's a lack of consistency. I recognize that and am working on it. The best thing you can do is tell her what the consequences are of not doing what she is told and then actually following through if she doesn't do it! You know her best, so you know what is going to be a good punishment. My son's not allowed to go out and play until his chores are done. If his friends aren't home then that doesn't work, but the promise of an early bedtime does! If she's just being outright defiant, that requires and attitude adjustment. Something that will get her attention for a long period of time....grounding, removal of tv for a few days, spanking, if done properly WITHOUT anger only on the backside.

Answer 5

Read the Bible people! It clearly states "spare the rod, spoil the child". Spank her AND take away her favorite privileges! There is a vast difference between discipline and abuse and there is nothing wrong with a good old fashioned spanking! I do agree that you need to be consistent, as that is the only way that a child will learn boundaries. Good luck!

Answer 6

as a mother of three children one of who has just turned seven, i can honestly say he went through a time where he did not listen to anything i said i tried taking his PlayStation of him but that did not work i find that if i send him to his room he does not see it as a punishment because he has a TV up there a plenty of things for him to do. i have found making him sit in an area away from the tele and the other children means he has nothing to do i ask him to think why he is there and why he cant play like the other children in my house. if he moves from the spot i tell him he will sit there longer he is only aloud to move when i tell him to do so. what ever you choose to decide as a time out my advice is to be firm mean what you say otherwise they think they can carry on and you wont do anything. hope things settle down for you soon be persist ant my sun took nearly ten days before i really noticed a considerable improvement. good luck.

Answer 7

as a mother blessed with 3 very good kids, I agree with ruth,
I have a soon to be 13 yr old d a 8 yr old d and a 11 yr old son, I don't spank my children, when they don't listen they get grounded for their favorite things for a few days, I also let them know when their doing something good, this is normal for a 6 yr old girl it will pass, we been through it twice, trying sitting with her when you both calm and ask why she was not listening, and let her no that was wrong. also take that time to praise her for the goos thing she's done that day. good luck..

Answer 8

To get a certain work done by her you could probably say that she would be rewarded and then u could reward her with a chocolate or a kiss for every order listened to. this is a way that works for most of the kids in the age group of 5-10 years.

Answer 9

I have a 6yo daughter and it seems like she goes through phases of not listening.... time out doesn't work, spanking doesn't work, taking away tv doesn't work... I did find something that does.. PUSH UPs!! I am an Army Medic and so I figured that if pushups work for soldiers maybe it would work on Lydia... She hates it! now all I have to say is "do you want to do push ups?" and she will stop whatever she is doing!!! Good luck!

Answer 10

Tell her that if she doesnt listen to you ...she is going to mis out on dessert. Or tell her she is going to bed early if she doesnt listen. And if these things do not work. I think you need to give her a firm but gentel spank on the booty. Nothing violent or over the top....you dont want to get in trouble with the law. And if spanking her doesnt improve the situation....starting praying!