my girlfriend was on a hen weekend and in a very drunken state, she considered sleeping with another man after being egged on by her friends but didnt go through with it and didnt even kiss him, is this cheating and what shall i do?
2007-05-22 00:01:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she was drunk, pressured and still said no, then what has she to apologise for? That she, in her drunken state, contemplated it for a few seconds? She made a choice - she stayed faithfull to you and your relationship.
Ask yourself, would you want her punishing you every time your eyes strayed to a pretty girl, or you looked at a picture, or ever thought "what if"?
Faithfullness doesn't mean that your never tempted, it means you never would.
2007-05-22 00:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not cheating.
It's good she didn't do it even when drunk and being egged on.
Her friends were a bad influence. But if she did something, she can't blame it on the alcohol. It would be irresponsible and un loyal.
Thinking about it is almost as bad as cheating, but it's more forgivable, and would probably lower trust. Especially if it's before a wedding.
2007-05-22 00:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by m8g8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even in a drunken state of mind when you do things that you normally wouldn't do sober she refrained from doing it so that means she really loves you. Her friends were egging her on but still she didn't do it. I think that her love for you was stronger then her friends and the alcohol.
2007-05-22 00:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by greylady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her friends are not yours. No she didnt cheat she may have thought about it but certainly during your relationship you have thought about it also. The real concern is that she was in a situation that she could have cheated. Drunk at a club . If she was really happy with your relationship then why tempt fate by putting herself in a situation that she could have lost you.
2007-05-22 00:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has moments of weakness when they consider, desire, and even want to do such a thing. What matters, is if they go through with it or not.
It does not matter how much you love someone, even you, will find yourself one day thinking that way as well. It is human nature. Don't be upset with her for being honest with you, be thankful- and that she knew well enough not to put your relationship at risk for a little fun.
2007-05-22 00:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, thats not cheating cheating is having it with another guy!
we all get naughty thoughts, but I guess it only matters what we do, you sound like you're very willing to forgive her?
2007-05-22 00:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if she didnt kiss him or sleep with him no it is not cheating
however I would question my relationship
is there something lacking and something you can improve on
my question to you is did she tell you or did you find out
if she told you relax if not starting working at this relationship
2007-05-22 00:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jeni W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she didn't do anything than that is not cheating. to me this would prove that she is faithful to her relationship with you and that even if she is drunk and egged on she is still true to you
2007-05-22 00:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she thought about it and decided against. there can't
be free will without the ability to think about an action.
Have you ever thought about killing someone you didn't
like? good thing it's okay to think about but not do!
2007-05-22 00:09:07 · answer #9 · answered by wise old sage 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, this is not cheating. she obviously didn't do it so just be happy you have a girl that is honest with you and wouldn't cheat on you
2007-05-22 00:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by Calum's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋