I come from a christian background and believe that God is my Lord and my Saviour. Believe me, my believes and my faith in God has help me a great deal. Unlike my husband, if i have a problem, i pray to God and he relieves me from all my worries. I always ramain positive in all i do while my husband is paranoid, always negative about things. Its so difficult to be with someone who is not in the same believes as you are. How ever i believe that one day he will come around. Does anyone has any idea on what to do? I know patience and constant prayers will do. But your ideas will be very welcomed.
Thanks in Advance.
2007-05-21 22:02:56 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
dont let the negative responses from other people upset you. You only want what you believe what is best for you husband and some of them responses are shocking. I also believe as you do that God yearns for your husband to return to him and walk with him, and I know God hears and answers prayer. I am praying as i type for your husband. God is faithful. Keep praying. My husband has just become a christian, and i'll tell you what i did to try and get him to faith. nothing. well nothing obvious. I prayed loads, along with many other people. but i just left it to God. But be an example. Your walk with God will be wieghed and measured by your husband. He will see it works. I didnt deny my faith or what i believed, but I tried to do what Jesus did. I loved him as he is, as God made him. Remember God loves him more than you do and will be there knock knock knocking. leave it to God. I promise i will continue to pray for you over the coming weeks, keep the faith and rebuke the devil and the words he has already used to pull you down.
If it seems slow, do not dispair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day! HABAKKUK 2:3
2007-05-22 12:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an atheist engaged to a Christian, whom I've been with for 3 years, I don't find the least bit of difficulty with the differences in our beliefs, and neither does he. You have to work at relationships. Did you know that he was a non-believer when you married him? If you knew there was going to be a conflict, why did you marry him? It seems very unfair for both of you. I can't give you any ideas other than maybe stop praying so much and really talk to your hubby, try to understand where he's coming from. Maybe he's paranoid over your reliance on God instead of on him, who knows? But if you knew there would be problems, you'd have been better off not marrying him.
2007-05-21 22:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by ReeRee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From a long term perspective
I assume that as Jesus is your friend and your husband is also your friend, that it is a matter of time that Jesus would be familiar to him and he would want Jesus too for himself as he sees Him as the Lord of his life can be full of peace and joy and the holy spirit.
From a short term perspective
I would ask him to join you in prayer or in whatever you feel is important, say worshipping together singing and praising God together, doing things to make you both come closer together, and the Lord would bring you and him closer to Him.
Sharing a lesson you learn from the Lord, a message to bless him etc is a great turn on. Do it all for the Lord and building your relationship with Him is more important than everything. Let God bring him to him, and your role is to work close to God and enjoy it. It should show it in your life.
2007-05-22 00:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do NOT try to convert him. That's only going to make things worse. It's as they say... you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. Religious belief, or lack thereof, is a very personal issue that people are passionate about. If this was really an issue, it would have been best to have not married in the first place, but it's not a game-over situation either. I know many unhappy Christians and many happy athiests. Religion doesn't equate to happiness. If he is negative, it's not because he doesn't believe what you believe. There's a whole plethora of variables mixed into that, having to do with many different areas.
2007-05-21 22:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by jbone907 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the best thing for him, you are praying for him. Be careful that you don't bible bash him, as that will certainly stop him from believing. Maybe you should do some fun activities with your husband and invite some of his friends and your friends from church. Let him see that Christians can have fun too, without 'preaching' all the time. A small quote from St. Francis of Assisi "In always preach the Gospel, and if the opportunity arises use words."
For you, I would say stop worrying '1 Peter 5:7' if he is going to become a Christian, as you believe 'have faith'.
2007-05-21 22:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Smart_Guy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you love him and respect him you will not interfere in his beliefs and the same can be said for him, if he loves and respects you he will not interfer in your beliefs. Religion is a choice that we all have the right to make on our own. If you try to pressure him, he will reject you just as you would if the roles were reversed. A couple should not be a carbon copy of each other, very often it is our differences that attract us to one another and through diversity make us stronger. It is the love each of you feel for each other that is important. Enjoy that.
Blessed Be )O(
2007-05-22 00:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think religion is the issue. It sounds like you're bummed by his negativity, not his lack of religion. If that's the case you can't approach it from a religious point of view. There's lots of negative Christians. Even if he converted to Christianity it wouldn't change his negativity.
2007-05-21 22:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, i don't know your husband but i doubt it's Christianity he does not believe in, I'll bet it's god. also, how hard do you think it is for your husband to not only watch you talk to yourself all the time but to have you complaining that he does not do the same, why don't you try looking at life logically, then you might realise there is no god and your relationship with your husband would improve.
2007-05-21 22:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ste B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being unevenly yoked myself, so to say, I'd say it's interesting. It makes you keep an open mind to the world and it makes you rediscover your own spirituality through meaningful conversation with your God-given counterpart. My little atheist is a perfect example of matches made in heaven and I wouldn't trade her for any Christian woman, no matter how devout, because she makes me a better human being for knowing her and a better Christian for being forced to keep on my toes and avoiding the pitfall of fundamentalism that sadly sometimes can come when you surround yourself only with people of like faith. Take the opportunity, try to talk with him and see if you can maybe get him to rediscover his spirituality and you your own. It's quite refreshing and revitalizing for the relationship.
2007-05-21 23:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My father is not saved. We've all prayed about it and believed that the day will come when he'll accept Christ. In the meantime, our behaiviour and attitudes around him are working towards pulling him in the direction of light. So I agree with the others that be a good example.
2007-05-21 22:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by malisto 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋