It was my first time with my boyfriend. But when I bled, my partner got scared. When I asked if i could get pregnant he said no since he "withdrew" after the first thrust. And that he "came" when he took his "member " out. Is this true? Could I not get pregnant?
2007-05-21 19:19:35 · 24 answers · asked by Ruthy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You could easily get pregnant.
If you do not want to be, either, get some sex education because it certainly sounds like neither of you know what the hell you are doing.
Or start using condoms. (after you grow up a bit)
2007-05-21 19:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to presume that you are young - because inexperience is inexperience at any age. However, I am concerned that you are experimenting with your body and your future without knowing or understanding the facts.
Forget about STD's, Aids, and pregnancy for just a moment and think about what this is doing to you emotionally. You are scared, unsure, probably not feeling as sexy as you thought you were when you were doing it, and have some pretty negative thoughts about yourself right now. These things, regardless of the amount of sexual knowledge you have all add up to not being ready for the act that you participated in. And no - your first time is not fun or sexy - neither is your second time or your third. It doesn't truly get good until you are ready - it might get easier, but it doesn't get better and when you are truly in love, it is fantastic. You may need to speak to an adult that you trust - your girlfriends can only help you through so much. Now on to your questions: 1) The blood was your hymen - or your "cherry" breaking. This can also happen when using a tampon as a virgin. It generally only happens once - you do not grow one back 2. Anytime you have sex - unprotected or protected you run the risk of becoming pregnant. The chances are greatly increased when you do not use protection - as are your chances for an STD, or worse - Aids (this can kill you).
At the age that I am thinking that you are at, you are probably wanting to be grown up and thinking that sex is a way of making you more grown up. In a way, you are right, because there is no quicker way to grow up than by becoming prenant. Not ready to have the responsibility of having a baby - have more respect for yourself and wait for a time where you can handle the responsibility. Chances are that the boy that took your virginity is not ready to have a baby, wont stand by you if you became pregnant - probably wont even admit to having sex with you, isn't ready himself for a baby - and like you, isn't thinking about the responsible side of having sex. Sex isn't just about the hormones, it is also about the consequences. I hope moving forward, you make wiser choices and show some respect for yourself - just say no, your not ready for the responsibility of it yet. If they don't understand - they don't really care about you anyway. In the mean time - talk to your doctor about birth control or contact the Planned Parenthood center in your area and find out how to get a pregnancy test and free birth control (condoms / the pill) and information about sex: become informed! And for heavens sake - don't throw your life away for one moment of pleasure, YOU are worth more than that!
2007-05-21 21:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems unlikely.. From what I understand (it's been a LONG time since Human Development class) the reason women have periods is to clean the lining of the uterus to provide the best possible 'home' to a fetus.. If you are pregnant, that lining would be in use, so if you were to have a period, it would have to be quite light,, Still, if you think you're pregnant, it's a quick test either at the doctor's office or from the drugstore..
2016-05-19 07:45:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! a hundred times yes! I got pregnant the first time i ever had sex. And yes, my b/f promised me over and over nothing would happen if he withdrew. We were both really stupid.
Listen though...if you weren't on birth control pills, i would **HIGHLY** suggest getting THE MORNING AFTER PILL. It's sold over the counter now. You have up until 5 days to get it after unprotected sex, and the sooner you get it and take it, the more effective it is at preventing pregnancy. I believe you have to be 18 to get it at most stores, but you can also go to any Planned Parenthood and it's required by law that they provide you with it, if over the age of 14.
Next time, ALWAYS use condoms, or better yet,get on birth control pills. Pregnancy is a HUGE deal and women have got to become more educated on it! k, I hope all works out for you!
2007-05-21 19:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get pregnant the first time you have intercourse (which is what you did). Pre-ejaculate fluid can have sperm in it, and it only takes one. Withdrawal is a VERY unreliable method of birth control. Your bleeding was very likely from the hymen being broken.
I strongly urge you to go to Planned Parenthood or a similar agency and get the facts about sex, conception, and birth control, before you end up having an abortion, or a baby that you do not want.
2007-05-21 19:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES you can get pregnant your first time I DID and they pre ejaculate . withdrew ? 1/2 of the time they take it out after they already started any way. get on birthcountroul and use rubbers unless you want a baby and if you arnt ready for one don't have sex cause that is the only way you can not end up pregnant. allot of guys bell out after they get you pregnant "they arnt ready" and even if you decided to murder the baby they don't stay with you after that ether and once ppl find out you did it they will think different of you or some will . and you are left thinking for the rest of your life what would life be like if I had the baby and you would also think about the life you took . and if you have the baby young you my be raising the baby alone no help and no friends they don't want to hang with a girl with a screaming baby . Stop thank about what you are doing . I hope you are his first cause guys lie and allot of them sleep with more then 1 girl at a time. and allot just lie to get some trust me and when men have STD's some times you don't even know and you can get them HPV allot of ppl have it men carry it and spread it and don't even know it would you like cancer? how about HIV lots of young ppl are getting it what about the rest of your Life . stop open your eyes
WE NEED TO BETTER EDUCATE OUR YOUNG ON SEX WHY DON'T THEY KNOW THIS ????????????
2007-05-21 19:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There is pre-ejaculation too. Just because he 'withdrew' doesn't mean you can't be pregnant. There is no sure fire way to have sex and not get pregnant. But birth control pills and condoms etc do help a lot. And not to be rude... but just so you know, don't listen to him if he also says having sex in water washes them away. You can get pregnant anywhere. Please get some sex education if your not ready to be a mom.
2007-05-21 19:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard many stories of woman getting pregnant their first time. It is always important to wear protection if you are not trying to get pregnant. My oldest son was conceived from the pulling out method. The precum (from what i hear) has more sperm than the actual ejaculation. Just a lil tip be responsible about sex. If you are not trying to be a parent yet then wear protection.
2007-05-21 19:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Wonderman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they NOT teach sex ed where you come from?
COME ON!!!
He has no friggen idea what the hell he is talking about.
You bled because he tore through your hymen. i bled too my first time, but we both had mind enough to wear a condom.
For god sake his precum (the clear liquid that comes out when he is aroused) has sperm in it. Tell him to read a sex ed book you too.
How freeking old are you that you have no idea how to get pregnant and/or how to prevent it? If you have no idea, what the hell you are doing then?
So to answer your question
YES you can get pregnant the first time, you can get pregnant if you do it standing up, also in a bathtub or any other myth you were told.
Read a damn sex ed book
2007-05-21 19:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by Aimee B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the blood, to put it charmingly is you popping your cherry... not an ovulation. Withdrawing has an extremely low success rate in preventing pregnancy because semem is ejected throughout the whole session, not just when he comes. however if he only did one thrust, withdrew and then came its highly unlikely anyhing happened, but you may have a case of premature ejaculation on ur hands
2007-05-21 19:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by rick JAMES 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋