It all started when she was hired to decorate an entire apartment of newly weds, but unfortunatly she was very bitter about something she keep babeling about i don't know. She didn't get her work done because she was being such a les about her work. Well she didn't show up on time at the apartment she was decorating and I was forced to make small talk with these two love birds and they asked me what ideas I have for their nursery so I told them and they loved it, I ended up designing the entire apartment because Grace just didn't show up. Well when she finally comes they are telling her how thankful they are and all that crap and she takes all the credit for it. She thinks if Kurnal Sanders was stoped on the street and complimented about his chicken he woudln't say thanks but Ramone made it. She thinks she is Kurnal Sanders but shes not, I am. It was my original recipie. She is Ramone! Am I right or what? Should I quit?
2007-05-21 19:19:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, you should quit and go back to school and learn how to spell Colonel. And, P.S., "newlyweds" is one word.
Sorry, but that just bugs the he// outta me.
Take it to her boss and apply for her position when she is let go. There is no reason YOU should quit for this. She should be reprimanded or dismissed. Keep notes on all her tardiness, excuses, lies and lack of work, then professionally go to who she reports to and explain the situation.
(Actually, Johnny, you spelled it wrong too. ...ah, but I see you've corrected yourself now. Thank you for editing.)
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Ok. Wait. I totally missed that she is your BF. That makes it harder. Go to her and tell her how unfair she was to take credit for your ideas. Tell her that she should have owned up to her distractions on this job and that you can't work with her if all future situations are going to end in this result. Ask her what she is going to do to make amends. Tell her you'd like both the clients and your bosses to know of the ideas and results having originated and been executed by you. Let her know that if she won't own up in the appropriate way that you'll have no choice but to let the truth be known yourself.
2007-05-21 19:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by J S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(kurnal is actually colonel....just an fyi)
Working with your best friend as your boss is never a good idea. It's too hard to leave that friend relationship behind when you are working for this exact reason. I would find another job.
But, don't quit without talking to your friend about what happened. Tell her exactly how betrayed you feel by her actions and by the fact that she took credit for your work. If she's your best friend and you want to keep it that way, you need to be honest with her about how she hurt you. And you need to let her know that what she did was unethical, ESPECIALLY since you are friends.
The other point you need to understand is this: When you are someone assistant, this IS going to happen. You are the assistant and they are the boss. For this reason, along with the credit for a job well done, comes the blame when it's not done well. If YOU had been the one that messed up, your friend would have been the one to take the heat from the clients, not you. Why, because she is the "boss". That's her job. And that's the real world.
If you want to be sure that you get credit for your own ideas, be your own boss.
2007-05-22 10:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by teacherintheroom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether you are employed by a company or an individual, your designs/ideas are the property of that company, to do what they want with. They can, and do, take credit for it, and give you none. [unless you sue them and prove the ideas were yours].
You can take satisfaction that the people who really count know it was your design/idea, and that was the customers.
From now on, when you put something on paper, make sure your intitials or signature is on it, as appropriate.
I get impatient with some employers, who take the credit for everything the employee does. They should know that when the employee does something great, they look good too, they hired you! And have been smart enough to let you stay!
They should also know that keeping you back might breed some resentment, and the possibility that you will take your talent elsewhere.
She is insecure about her own work, or you, or your talent,or is just lazy, or all of these. Up to you if you want to quit or not, if you can get a better job, more pay, or responsibility, or, gasp! a title, you should consider it. "Sorry, Boss/friend, but this opportunity came up, and I just can't pass it up."
2007-05-22 02:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you quit? Why should you run away from something that you didn't do wrong? If you yourself know you're capable and did the great job by yourself, that's all that matters. Most of the time, you don't need to prove it to others, especially if they're binging off your credit. As long as you yourself know you have the capability of doing a great job, that's what matters the most. With your abilities, work harder and be your own boss. You don't have to quit, you also don't have to be her assistant if you're capable or even more capable than her. Work your way UP, not down or out!
2007-05-22 03:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While this is not the action of a best friend, perhaps, the facts of life are that when you work for someone, they own the work you do during the time they are paying you. She pays you for your typing, creative ideas, coffee fetching, chauffering, whatever it is you do, that's what doing your job entails.
Whilever you work for someone else, this is the fact of life.
This does not mean her behaviour is ethical or nice, just that it is pretty ordinary business practice for a lot of people ~ many of who will wake up one day and discover that their former best friend/employee has learned all they know about the business, memorised the client list, opened their own shop two blocks away and are doing really well.
And she will wonder 'why?'.
2007-05-22 04:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your best friend's business, she gets credit for everything, unless you have an agreement. After all, she is paying you to do this. You don't think that a fabric company gives their employees credit for every design that they come up with.
If this is really your best friend, you would not have minded helping her, anyway. After all, she was going through a rough time.
If you want to be a larger part of the business, talk to your friend about investing in her business, or open one of your own. That way you can get the credit that you want.
2007-05-22 02:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should quit, but be careful. She could give you a bad reference for another job. I would find another job first, and explain to the new employers why you are leaving the other job. Don't be over critical of your former employer. Just explain that you feel your talents are not appreciated, and you are looking for a position where you can improve on your skills.
2007-05-22 02:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, If this was my own sweat, blood & tears. I'd knock her @ss out. But that wouldn't be civilized, would it? You could quit, the question is do you need the BS. They may need you later, but do you need them?
When you leave, I guess they'll realize how much your friend was doing the work. Let her take care of her own business. You'll see.
2007-05-22 02:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by anarchy0029 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save your friendship then yes. Otherwise you two are going to end up having a huge falling out by the sounds of it.
Go into business for yourself :)
2007-05-22 02:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by Naomi S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
assistant means what ? if you want credit open your own business.
ps - its COLONEL Sanders, another hooked on phonics student gone beserk.
2007-05-22 02:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Alegria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋