plz no stupid answers. im not even sure there is an answer to this question. i would really perfer a man's point of view. its not like ive been mean or anything. i treat him soo good i thought we had one of the best relationships. i thought he was very happy with me. we get along great. we were friends before we started dating. i just dont understand why would you cheat on the one person whos been there with u thru everything and loves u unconditionally... y would you do this to someone? plz help me understand??
2007-05-21 19:01:15 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends. If it was just sex that your boyfriend had with another woman, then its those natural urges that men have subconsciously, to be the dominant male and spread his seed. Another factor is alcohol. Men think they are irresistible when tanked up.
If your boyfriend was seeing someone behind your back for an amount of time then he didn't think of you the same way as you thought of him.
I love my wife very much and would never cheat on her so you are wrong to say men cheat on women. You just haven't met the man who loves you enough to want you and you only.
2007-05-21 19:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I am not a man, maybe I can shed some light. I have been cheated on many a time, and have myself cheated.
The most common reasons/ecuses (that I know of) that people use when they have cheated are:
1 There are underlying problems in the relationship that 1 or both involved don't want or choose to deal with
2 The sex is too little (not often), or too boring
3 They had a slight moment of weakness, and nothing else
4 They needed a way out, even if everything was great
5 They have come to think that the "grass is greener"
6 They are not really ready to settle down, and aren't mature enough to go about it any other way
OR......................
7 There is no reason, people are people and they make mistakes.
2007-05-21 19:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOn't listen to these people saying that your ex got bored thats bull anyways I understand you completely... I was in a 5 yr relationship and my ex cheated on me and ended up getting the female pregnant... As time goes by you will feel better and you wont question yourself tooo much on why he did what he did... I loved my ex, I was there for him unconditionally, gave my all and helped him when he needed me the most and he did what he did...
He did what he did because he really didn't love you b/c when a person love we try not to hurt the other b/c we care about their feelings.... I'm sorry that your crushed and heartbroken... my ex didn't tell me about the chick being pregnant until 2 months ago.. and now she gave birth and he still talking crap about me ...
In time you will notice that he wasn't worth your time and was unworthy of your love I hope you can overcome this b/c you deserve someone who will love you, respect you and care for you the way you'll care for him...
Always remember we must expect the worse from everyone... I learned this the hard way.. I'm over him already so I know ou can overcome it stay strong...
If you need more advice feel free to email me lusciousprdr@yahoo.com
2007-05-21 19:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by marleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do it because they can. I went through this after 2 1/2 years. They feel safe in the relationship, they want to feel the rush of being touched by a new person. It's selfishness and insecurity.
My guy said he doesn't know why he did it, though I do. After awhile, the "butterflies" go away and the relationship starts needing work. It's normal and healthy, but some guys don't feel prepared to work on the relationship so they try to start over somewhere else, while still having the safety of a loving woman at home. My guy was trying to have his cake and eat it too, I think all guys go through a similar phase at some point.
2007-05-21 19:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you. It is biologically and evolutionarily rooted. Men are designed by nature (or God, if you believe in that) to enjoy hunting. We love the chase, the excitement of the pursuit, the joy that comes from finally acquiring that elusive creature. He's probably lost interest in you because he's gotten too used to how you behave. You may not make him feel excited anymore.
What you have to do is become that flirtatious, elusive, fun girl for him again. The one that teases and doesn't always give in . People in general love challenges, and dislike things that come to easy to them. Since you're in love with him, be in love with him, but also bring a fresh perspective on things. When's the last time you dressed up sexy for him and had some "good times" together? When's the last time you made him feel a little nervousness or changes in his emotions? I may be babbling just like you, but these are the things that would make me want a girl again if I lost interest. I'd want her to play a little hard to get.
2007-05-21 19:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ive cheated one time in my lifetime, and i must admit, i do detest myself for it but i also have a part that enjoyed it. But mostly a guy would cheat cause he feels he isnt getting some type of attention he wants, or maybe he wants to browse around some more before settling down with someone. Thats the main two things i would give u as a guys opinion. Hope things work out.
2007-05-21 19:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because guys think the grass is greener on the other side. I know you wanted a mans point of view, but I once cheated on someone who I knew would always be there for me and took my crap so I decided to jump the fence to the other side. Needless to say, it was not good at all. I missed my boyfriend deeply, and the other guys were just jerks. Your boyfriend must think that you will be with him no matter what. You better stand your ground and not let him walk all over you. Guys just think they are missing out on something and then realize it wasn't worth it.
2007-05-21 19:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a guy... I see a few possibilites, neither of which are appealing. The most likely is that something about the relationship bores him, so he is looking elsewhere to fulfill whatever he feels is missing or lacking. If you don't know what this is, then it sounds like you two need to work on back-and-forth communication. If he's not happy but never says anything or shows it, how would you ever know until something like this happens. Guys stray because the relationships get boring, or don't fulfill them. usually it's a sex-related issue... us guys, we are pigs.
The other possibility is that he's just one of those guys who isn't "built" for fidelity. The lifelong dater; who never wants to be tied down or committed.
That's what I think.
2007-05-21 19:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by jbone907 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, was it it to satisfy his sexual desires, or did he fall in love with someone else? If it is former, it might be his sexual preference, if it is the latter, then well, that's understandable too.
I am wondering why you are asking the question. Obviously he felt attracted to another woman and went with it.
Men don't often talk their feelings because it will soon reveal themselves to be the animals they are. They have spent their entire lives building up a facade of entertaining stories, tricks, arts and crafts, all with the aim at getting a woman. After a time a man cannot live with this lie and must go somewhere else. You might consider being in a polygamous relationship with him or dealing with his sexual desires differently.
2007-05-21 19:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I apologize on behalf of those guys who do this, I don't understand them myself. Perhaps he just needs someone else to ignite that fire in him again. It's the guys who can't handle just having one woman for a long time. It's not only guys though, my two friends who went out with each other 6 years broke up after his girl cheated on him. It was just unbelievable when it happened. They were also so perfect with each other and one day she just cheated on him because she wanted to feel the excitement of a new relationship. Don't lose hope though there are guys out there who can find one girl and stick with her forever but the question is are you?
2007-05-21 19:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋