1) if you don't start acting right, i will beat your little ***.
2) if you don't behave in school they will kick you out.
(she hasn't even started kindergarden yet)
3) or they will send you to reform school.
4) if you don't be quiet so I can sleep, i'm going to get a motel room.
I don't agree with any of these, I just need to know if i'm wrong. should these be said to her?
2007-05-21 18:36:51 · 25 answers · asked by whatsthat4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No. she shouldn't be saying anything like that. Remarks such as that will only hurt the child's psychological development and encourage her to get into abusive relationships later on in life.
2007-05-21 18:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they shouldn't be said and no, like the person above said, the parent shouldn't be reported if they're not hurting the child. instead what they need is a friend to tell them that this is no way to talk to the child. most likely the person doesn't know what to do so they think they have to scare the child into behaving. a little advice for them and maybe some examples should help. if they refuse help from u or anyone else including professionals, then u need to worry, because it could seriously mess the child up in the long run.
2007-05-22 01:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by j.c. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, all the comments above are so negative that you don't want your chiild to feel like you don't value them, there are better ways of saying things, like If your naughy then you have to sit on that chair by yourself with no toys or anythig until I come and get you and when you do go and get her after 5 min you explain to her why you put her there and what she can do next time to not be sent to the chair. YOu can say that nobidy likes naughy girls and people won't want to play with you wif you are rude, naughy and act out, usually if you explain in a way that they understand they should start behaving nicely. Use a firm yet low voice when talking to her, don't yell as this will only make things worse.
2007-05-22 01:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let it happen on My watch, and I am pretty certain most other people would put a stop to this verbal/mental abuse before it evolves into a physical manifestation. Social / Child Services would love to talk to this person. She would appear to be having some problems coping with Her lifestyle. If She goes over the edge the Daughter could well be in danger. You know what the right thing is, so do it, before it is too late!
2007-05-22 01:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I am the father of a four year old, and I can't imagine threatening him with his personal security and safety. A child needs to know he is secure with and loved by the most important people in his life -- his parents. And threats like those you list, I'm guessing, will only undermine the child and make him or her insecure and untrusting. Maybe for years to come. A parent needs to discipline a child, but that can be done best by removing privileges and toys. For a five year old, that could be putting him in his room -- in a time-out -- for five minutes. Or taking away his favorite ball, or her favorite doll for a short period of time. Time frames should also be relatively short, because children of that age are still unaware of time to a large extent -- five minutes is a long, long time. Good luck.
2007-05-22 01:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by sdcolorado 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I day it to my six year-old all the time accept the beat your little *** part oh and they'll kick you out of school, and the reform school thing oh wait I don't day the motel thing either.
Wow whoever this is is a really sucky parent....
2007-05-22 01:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by rey1101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they shouldn't be said to her. But, unfortunately, the source of these phrases of ridicule probably heard it straight from their mother or father when they were a child and is now repeating them and playing the role of parent now based on the examples they lived with while growing up. God Bless that poor little girl.
2007-05-22 01:43:37 · answer #7 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone says things in anger! Pretty soon, the child will most likely stop listening. No parent is perfect, and at least
she's not saying that she's stupid, or worthless! We used the word ugly a lot. ( To describe actions, not looks.) One can be ugly by hurting someone, or destroying something. To this day, my children (in their 30's) still refer to bad reaction or something hurtful as ugly. Pretty is as pretty does!
2007-05-22 01:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by V B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I have a 5 year old son and there is no way I would speak to him like that.
But also, this kid will pick up really fast that whoever says this is all talk no action. Empty threats may seem like a good idea, but kids aren't stupid.
2007-05-22 01:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by Barkditch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all are wrong; sometimes they are necessary for betterment of the daughter.
But a little can be done . But doing such behavior extensively to daughter must be the worst things.
2007-05-22 01:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋