Women, have you ever experienced this or know someone who has?
A women being with a man she loves, and he loves her. But, for some reason she can’t orgasm with him. I have read Cosmo and things like that, so I know most of the “in generals”. While she loves him, does she find him sexual attractive? Is he too selfish, or just a horrible lover? There are many circumstances, I know. But I am wondering what specifically in “your” situation may be the cause. If there was a combination of various circumstances, or if the cause was truly unknown?
I have heard that a women’s orgasm is more emotional. Is that true? Because I have heard that some women’s best sexual experiences have come from one-night-stands… that doesn’t seem too emotional. So, is that a bunch of BS.
Let me say that I have not been a serious enough relationship for this to be an issue. So, I don’t really need advice. But the thought that this occurs is very depressing, and scares the crap out of me. I just want to avoid it if I can. I’m 28 and male. If this question happens to interest you, I have another open question posted on my profile.
Thank you, if you have at least read this.
2007-05-21 17:00:07 · 9 answers · asked by 221 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are so many reasons that women can't orgasm. Actually there are so many women that don't at all. I find in my personal life that orgasm is emotional.
For most women the meaing of emotional isn't a long term relationship emotional it's the love, attention and affection emotional. Sure a one night stand might satisfy all three of those.
A man has the big O by text book means usually, If you rub it or jerk it or thrust it he will ***! Plain and simple but a women is much more complicated.
We need to feel special, desired, loved, and sexy. If a man can make us feel that way we will be a lot more inclined to O.
A women can rarely just *** on command we usually need to be wined and dined and TONS of foreplay, but that doesn't mean we don't also enjoy a good quicky.
A one night stand might present the unknown like a fantasy ("Which is arousing), or he may be soooooo romantic and tell her exactly what she wants to hear.He will shower her will attenton and make her feel soooo desired and wanted and sexy that how can she not find the whole experience erotic.
I think that for women the big O is a little more complicated it's just the simple thing that we need a little more oil to get the motor running.
2007-05-21 17:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by stefanie_theoriginal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There can be many factors as to why a woman who is in love with a man can't achieve orgasm with him. No he is not selfish unless he doesn't give her ample time to do so or he is only interested in himself getting off. It could be he is not good at pleasing her too. They would need to talk to find out what might be causing this. Woman also, like men, can be affected by drugs, depression meds for one, make it real difficult to even get in the mood let alone achieve an orgasm. It could be something medically wrong with the woman too, she should be cleared by a gynecologist first to make sure it is nothing medically wrong with her. Then she needs to tell the man what she likes and how and take it slow. Experimentation is the best way to figure out if it is just that one man or with any man it might happen. Everyone is different. Some women just never have one.
2007-05-21 17:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will say I have NEVER had an orgasm with a man other than my husband and over the years the orgasms have become more frequent and more intense. Even now after 15 years I don't have one every time. It seems to be dependent on mood, affection and atmosphere. If I know the kids are in the next room and likely to interrupt it's a wash for me (doesn't seem to affect him, but I'm willing, because I know he will be there later to make it right). Hope this helps. Maybe more MODERN (I'm 36) women can do 1 nite stands but I think the right guy/love makes all the difference!
2007-05-21 17:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by beth l 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for a woman it is emotional. If my husband and I are fighting or we have not been getting along very well then I have very small ones. The one night stand thing is because she has no emotional attachment and has never had her feeling hurt by that individual. Sometimes men are selfish and do not take step to make sure the woman is satisfied. Sometimes a woman has problems with relaxing and that can cause issues, a good body rub will usually fix that.
2007-05-21 17:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Gidget 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A orgasm in a loving emotional relationship can be like the icing on the cake. But in saying that there are many women out there who have never experienced one or some can just achieve one with a toy. it's all in the mind anyway...LOL!!
2007-05-21 17:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with the gal giving herself a "helping hand" to make the situation more pleasurable... If she does this when they make love, then there shouldn't be a problem in the sack!
2007-05-21 17:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that u r a horrible lover, u just need to know how to read ur partner and know what they like.
2007-05-21 17:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess it just depends how good the man knows what he's doing and the state of mind the woman is in during her experience ....
2016-05-19 06:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women talk way to much maybe that is why it tahts forever for you to orgasm.
2007-05-21 17:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by Bones 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋