My friend invited me to go to the salon and get our hair done for promotion and she offered to pay. I don't want to look cheap, but then it was an offer. Should I pay half? All? let her pay it? Should i do something similar and treat her next time? What is the most polite thing to do?
2007-05-21 16:59:45 · 14 answers · asked by miss brightside 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
when i say "promotion" i mean "8th grade promotion" (like a mini prom) because I am going to start high school in the fall!
2007-05-21 17:25:38 · update #1
Personally I would allow her to pay this time, and tell her next time it is my treat. That is the way i have always done things, never had a problem. However if you know she cannot really afford it you might want to atleast offer to pay all or half. Kind of tricky!
2007-05-21 17:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
she invites you out with the agreement that she was treating you. naturally, you allow her. your only job is make her understand that you 1) appreciate her as a friend, 2) appreciate the gesture, and 3) are not taking advantage of the situation by planning to do some sort of follow-up (as to say, join her for lunch the following week or drinks after work). your reciprocated act doesn't have to match hers, dollar for dollar. it merely has to show appreciation.
however, if you're afraid of appearing cheap, then offer to pay half of the bill. it wouldn't hurt. at worst, you end up getting 50% off a day at the salon and good company...
2007-05-22 00:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by bmtran21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most polite thing to do would be to offer to pay the tip. That way, it will still allow her to treat you, but it would let her know you appreciate it.
Friendship does not require reciprocation. However, you may want to offer to take her to lunch that day or shortly after. It is not necessary for the sake of etiquette, but a great way to stay in touch and catch up with one another! have fun!!!
2007-05-22 00:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Miss B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I understand the "for promotion" part. did you both get a promotion? Or will your new do's promote something? Let her pay and you can leave the tip.
2007-05-22 00:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by gayley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing I would suggest is repaying her in a different way. If she insists to pay then you tell her that you will treat her to....(whatever). If you are close with the girl it will be fun to look forward to something else to do, whatever it may be.
2007-05-22 00:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by niccas9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the most polite thing is to accept her generosity this go 'round and reciprocate at the nearest opportunity. Perhaps go to lunch or get together and get pedicures - your treat!
2007-05-22 00:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by Curiousgeorgette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she offered to pay then let her pay. Perhaps you could do something nice for her in return some other time.
2007-05-22 05:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i would offer to pay half, that is a good friendly idea and she could still refuse it. Insist only once or twice but if she doesnt want you to pay dont hide money or anything because that would be annoying to her
2007-05-22 00:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Say, "are you sure you want to pay? thanks so much! Can I throw the tip for us both? No? Thanks for that, too!" "You are the greatest friend!"
And take the amount of money the hair salon is charging, plus a tip, in your purse. Just in case.
You don't have to reciprocate, but if you wish to, take her out for lunch sometime.
2007-05-22 02:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her treat this time, and the next big event in her life, you treat.
2007-05-22 00:15:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋