She was adopted last year. I've notice sometimes she'll tell us her brother and sister live in a different state and changes her response about having a dad and not having a dad. I'm sure her adopted parents are aware of this. Is there anything I can say or do that will help her transition with her new family. Maybe it's best not to approach it directly with her, but maybe there is something I can say or do that can help her indirectly.
2007-05-21 16:56:40 · 8 answers · asked by rascoe627 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My husband and I used to be house parents to 9 teenage girls and we had a policy that even though we were allowed to looks at case histories, we chose not to. We didn't want to prejudge the girls and we wanted to treat them like all of our other children. If the girls wanted to give us information, we would take it with a grain of salt and keep it confidential and never bring it up again. But the best thing to do is just understand that she went through a lot and she probably fantasizes about being someone else. Just love her and treat her like your daughter and let her know that if she ever wants to talk, she can talk to you. But remember that if you promise to keep a secret, you have to do that.
2007-05-21 17:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her parents if there is anything you can say to ease the transition. They would be the ones to decide what should be said. This can be a very confusing time for a child.
If you knew what how they were talking about it you could talk to your own daughter using the same wording so she would be able to talk about it with her friend too.
2007-05-22 02:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend you only say something if asked. This child does appear to be aware she was adopted, and is working things out with her new family. Being on the outside, you may not know what has been discussed between the child and her adoptive parents.
However,since the child is your child's best friend, that implies you may be friends with the parents. You may wish to relay any comments the child has made to you to the new parents.
2007-05-21 17:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by MICHAEL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not think that you should be the one to say anything to her. Aren't her adoptive family helping out in making the transition.?
Just be her friend, that is all you need to do.
2007-05-21 18:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to sign his rights away. Then adoption can circulate forward. Him no longer paying new child help, isn't basically his fault. Sitting around waiting for it is on no account the respond. you're transforming into notified the courts, and had his wages garnished. Oh nicely.
2016-12-11 16:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get involved. Let her transition with her family. She has enough to cope with.
2007-05-21 17:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i would tell her that she's not alone there are alot of kids out there who are just like her. and tell her that if she needs someone to talk to you will be there for her. that's all you can do.
2007-05-21 17:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
is not your place to say word, let her adopted parents worry about it
2007-05-21 17:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋