When a colleague sends you a Messenger msg at work and they meant to send it to someone else as it is complaining about you and insulting you, how should you react in the short and long term?
2007-05-21 15:35:52 · 16 answers · asked by Nikita (Australian) 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Reply to the person and say, "I think you meant to send this to.............." That should teach them a lesson for being so mean. After that, remain cordial and get on with your business. They'll suffer enough just knowing that you discovered their deceitfulness.
2007-05-21 15:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by bombastic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alright, my first thought is that I highly doubt that this colleague "accidentally" sent it to you.
I've personally used that excuse a million times... I think they probably sent it to you on purpose and made it look like it was an accident.
If she really did send it on accident though (how does someone even do that?) then my reaction would be to take the higher road, and not do anything, except maybe reply with a " I didn't realize you felt so strongly about me... I think this was meant for another person..." kind of statement... then just don't let them see any reaction. If you don't react the way a person expects you to, it usually just leaves them embarrassed and a little angry. The best way to get back at someone is to kill them with kindness. (It makes you look good too!)
2007-05-27 08:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to react is not to react. Sure you're going to feel hurt and insulted, but you are just stooping to their level if you get angry or confront that person.
I personally would send the message back to the sender and neutrally tell them they have sent the message to the wrong person. After that, do your best to steer cleer of this person.
After all, it is work, this person is obviously not a friend, so don't fight with them.
2007-05-21 16:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by dogcazza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would respond with: I am returning this to you as I think you meant it to go to someone else. I would like for you in the future to come directly to me if you have a problem with me over something. This way we can discuss your issues and solve the problem. Telling others about your disagreements with me is how rumors get started and end up causing distention in the work place and in relationships outside the job.
2007-05-27 01:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something sort of similar happened to me. Someone went to my supervisor regarding something I was doing that she did not like. When the supervisor approached me, I then went to the original complaintant and told her nicely, "If you have a problem with my work, I would appreciate it if you would come straight to me first." This got a very clear point across - don't go behind my back and I'm obviously the more mature person since I can approach you about it. I'd go to the sender and tell her, "if you have a problem with..., I'd appreciate it if you would come to me about it." That should thorought humiliate her without lowering yourself.
2007-05-21 15:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on what was written. I would save it and keep my eye out for other things said or sent around. It may be no big deal. People are always talkiong about others at work. When they start affecting your job then think about doing something.
But I say let it go and keep an eye out.
2007-05-28 14:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Pepper 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Send it back to the person and ask him/her if there's something you and he/she needs to talk about. Sniping at people behind their back is a sign of cowardice. The sender will most likely clam up just out of embarrassment.
2007-05-21 16:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by Richard B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would send the message back and say that I agreed with them.
2007-05-26 12:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by bnbn_e2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd copy the e-mail and go confront them about it. I would try to find out what the problem was this person had with me and try to work it out. If I couldn't I would then go to the head person and explain the problem and see if he could not mediate the problem..
2007-05-21 15:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Dixie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your colleague sent it to you on per-pus to see what your response is, it mite even have more then one person involve, so be care full on what you say or do, if you think I'm rite then mistakenly send that person a MSG, that says how sweet he or she is and that you think thy should git a raise or something like that. see what happens next
2007-05-28 12:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by johnnyjohnnykool 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋