My bf of two years and I keep on breaking up & getting back together.
He is physically and verbally abusive towards me ever since i cheated on him at the very beginning. We both cannot imagine our lives without one another but we have different perspectives on a lot of things. He thinks he is the boss of me and tries to control my social life so I don't cheat on him again.
But I want to be my own boss. I already took the consequences for cheating for two years. We tried to compromise a hundred times but it never works. All that is holding us now is love.
What should I do?
2007-05-21 13:37:14 · 4 answers · asked by suee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And im not a whore. Everyone makes mistakes in life. This was my biggest mistake.
2007-05-21 13:44:38 · update #1
You have answered your own question You have stated he is verbally and physically abusive He is controlling. You have cheated on him for two years His controll issues will only get worse You will drive him crazy What you have is not love Step back and clearly look at the situation Make a appointment to talk to a counselor and work out your emotional self Then work on your career school and home Do you really want a verbally physically controlling boyfriend The red flags are waving pay attention
2007-05-21 13:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by chameleon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is verbally and physically abusive - GET OUT NOW. There is no justification for that. If he loved you HE WOULD NOT DO THAT. Leave before there is something happens that can't be fixed.
You say it love holding you together, but you cheated and he hurts you, that's not love from either of you. It sound more like a co-dependent relationship, one that is doing neither of you any good. Both need to move on and get free.
You are holding onto only a ghost, a memory of what once was. Its an illusion and can't give you what you need. Let it go and find something real to build on.
Sorry girl, but it sounds like there is nothing there for you.
2007-05-21 20:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to break up with him. this is an unhealthy relationship. you want to stay because it feels passionate, you love each other so much but you also fight horribly. trust me, once you break up with him and eventually get over the relationship and move on with your life, you'll look back and be glad you got out. it will be a hard road getting there but the sooner the better.
2007-05-21 20:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by pnkphn 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop hookering around and get serious, this is all your fault because you went out and gave up the puss when he trusted you !!!
2007-05-21 20:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jima 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋