I'm 11 and think a girl likes me at school. Can you settle this?

Question

There's a really hot girl at my school. Actually, she's so astonishing, no guy doesn't think she's the bomb. I seriously think she likes me. She's athletic (not a tomboy, athletic), so she plays kickball. I'm a good player too, but not as good as most boys there. Everyday at kickball she picks me as the first boy. Today, when we were losing, I was wringing my hands b/c I'm one of the fiercest competitors you'll find. Accidentally, I hit her hip while my hands were shaking from losing. I immediately apologized and she automatically responded, "It's OK" in a soft tone. She's friendly to everyone. I was visibly embarrased and she saw it because I ran over to the boys to join whatever they were arguing about. I could care less. I was so angry that I visibly almost showed how embarrassed I was and how much I like her. If you've read other of my Q's, you see I have confidence in girls. But they're not at my school. I'm not in on the latest gossip, so I'm afraid she's with someone else. Help

Answer 1

You remind me of when I was in Jr. High...about 11, 12 years old.
I was that really hot girl! I guess. Because, men used to fight over me all the time. My body developed way young. And people always told me that I was pretty nice.

First of all, don't be embarrassed for accidently hitting her on the hip. You handled it perfectly. You were a gentleman. You apologized. That's what counts. Don't be afraid that she saw you embarrassed. That just makes you appear human. She needs to see the human side of you. It's human beings that we fall in love with. I don't understand your anger over it. But, then I didn't understand men and their anger when I was that girl either. Let me tell you what it was like to be that girl that all of the guys wanted.

Everyone acts like your so lucky to be her. It's a very difficult thing to be. If I could go back and change it, I wouldn't be her.
I'd remain a child a while longer. It's too hard. You're dealing with nice guys, yes. But, you're also dealing with creeps and predators. Guys build fantasies around you and then if you don't fulfill these fantasies you don't even know of...they get angry and you don't understand why. They become angry if you don't respond to them or their friends just right. Then, some become vengeful and abusive. My Girlfriends became jealous and mean at times. They'd do horrible things behind my back. I gave up having girlfriends for awhile.

And you don't necessarily get the guy that you have a crush on. Because, you feel as shy and crazy around him as he does you.
I didn't have very much self esteem. Even though, people said that I was beautiful. Here I'll copy and paste this for you from the journal of myself as a JR High Fem Fatale (man slayer).

"Every once and awhile, someone would come into the school screaming, “Laurie, come out side, some guys are fighting over you!”
“No,” I’d say, “I don’t want to see them kill each other.” I could’ nt believe this was even happening to me. I guess these things happen to a girl when her body matures too early. I looked eighteen. But, I was still a child inside. I was caught somewhere between playing with Barbie dolls and donning my silk stockings and high heels.

Dan and another guy had a contest over me. They both came to tell me that Dan wasn’t my boyfriend anymore. “Brad won.” he said. I was so sad. I wanted Dan. Dan was the man in my dreams. But, they had already decided. Did I have to play this social game? For some reason, I felt that I might. Why was he giving me away? Well, I guess I was only twelve years old. I didn’t have a lot social know-how. And apparently, I didn’t have any guidance from home.
That became my regret. If I had it to do again, I’d just say, “No! I want to keep my boyfriend. I love Dan!” I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t think that he’d really stay. Because, at the time I felt that I was being given away to the first passer by who thought he had a little brawn.. Tomorrow it could be a different day, a different winner.
For years my practical mind told me otherwise-that it wasn’t what this was all about...being dumped. It was more of a male sporting event. Yet, my heart, couldn’t see the difference. You’d think that I’d have been thrilled to death to have men fight over me. I wasn’t. Because, I didn’t understand it and I was losing the man that I loved. Things were never the same between us again. I guessed it was my fault.

As I’ve gotten older, the closest that I have come to understanding the male fighting ritual is this, “The most jarring expression of the man’s burden came from a guy who drew himself as the wolverine’s claw. “It’s the meanest animal on earth,” he said. “His message is ‘Go Away.’ He fights his male rivals and enemies to the death. And what was his Achilles’ heel? Woman, of course. “The fight,” he said, “ is about her,” protecting, possessing, needing her. “That was his whole life right there.”

These men with their armour, their thrust into war, may have been doing this because on some basic level they needed me. Or, at the least they needed what I stood for...my tenderness, my mercy, my attention, my love, my womanhood. That is so beautiful in it’s own fierce and bloody way. And after all, men are on earth- the warriors. I guess that they did what their instincts knew to do. “The drive among these men to save and protect women-and this drive is truly visceral-astounds me.”

Suddenly, I found my self in a depression. Because, of what had happened...Dan’s friends treated me badly. This continued into high school. One of them would go outside the jr high and get mud all over his shoes. Then, he’d come into the building and find me. He’d come up behind me and kick me in the behind until I was thrown across the room. One of Dan’s old bus drivers did something similar to me. I hadn’t seen Dan and wanted to talk to him and so I asked a guy from his bus...”where has he been? I can’t find him.” The man sent the kid back in and called me out to his bus to talk with Dan. Only, Dan wasn’t there.

The predatory bus driver touched me in places that he shouldn’t and then kicked me down the stairs of his bus. My knees scraped over the cement tearing my pants and bleeding my knees. Turned out later, in high school, the same bus driver was fired for molesting someone. I guess he wasn’t much of a man to begin with. I saw him years later with his little girl.

She was a pretty little girl, with long blond curls and shining blue eyes. The only thing that I could hear coming from my lips was, “ I hope someone treats your little girl in the same way that you treated me.” I thought that I saw a flash of guilt across his face. If a man with no soul can feel guilty. But, she was innocent. It wasn’t her fault. And I wouldn’t really wish that on any one.
My figure developed early. And I modeled a little bit. So, I guess that I had been pretty popular with the boys. However, I wasn’t easy. But, I’ve learned in life that some adults cannot tell the difference. Being surrounded by guys too young meant automatically being labeled the “she must be to free with her favors” girl. While, at the same time leaving other, less fortunately endowed young ladies, in awe and extremely jealous. And apt to do something very cruel to the one there jealous of at any moment. I gave up on having girlfriends for a long, long time.. Nonetheless, the whole experience of being a man’s “ex” girlfriend had also turned out to be pretty de-moralizing. Such disrespect towards the sanctity of womanhood deeply offends me!
Every once and awhile something interesting would happen that would make me feel a little less like an abused loser. Like one concert that I had to perform in, I was waiting outside where some college guys were tossing a ball across the lawn. One of them ran over, jumped down on one knee and proposed. I said, “But, you don’t even know me?”
“Oh, I can tell you’re every thing I’ve wanted to marry.” He said. You’re talented. Look, you play the violin.”
“I don’t really play very well.” I gushed..
“And listen to you. You’re kind. And your lovely.” He replied.
I blushed. “Well, thank you. You’re very kind. But, I’m only thirteen.”
He said, “No. You look eighteen? Oh, man!” He seemed so disappointed. And he had class. The whole thing totally made my day.

Both Dan and Brad asked me to the Lagoon Day at the end of the school year. I went with Brad. My heart was aching to be with Dan. I remember watching him from the ride that floats above the theme park. I wanted so much that day to give him a really long first kiss."

I didn't dare go with Dan because of the way that his friends were treating me after he lost the fight. I guess they were embarrassed for him. But, he was the one I loved. See how silly people are when they get angry too soon? My advice to you is to share your heart with her, share your dreams, Include her in them. Don't push sex on her too soon. Stay a gentleman. If you really want this to be your lady, plan now for years in the future. How will you provide for her? What will you do? And then years down the road, she may be yours. But, you've got a long ways to go. If she's not, you will be man enough to have a hottie just like her! Go for it man!

Answer 2

No. I never dated anyone until I found the perfect guy. I was asked out and people tried to set me up, but I always knew I'd find the perfect guy for me and I would know it when he came along. We have been married 11 years have 3 kids and are the best of friends to this day. We never grew bored of each other and everyone who knows us can see how in love we truly are. Never settle for someone you feel isn't right. It is ok to wait until you find her!

Answer 3

lol ...Ur A Smart Cookie...BUT Ur 11 Years Old Going On 20..Leave The Romance For Later...Now Its Time To Tune Urself Up Mentally And Physically For Ur High School And College Days...Your Competitive So Get That Way...Don't Be Messing With The Lil Girls Get Practicing

Answer 4

Wow, you sure you're eleven. Good job, you've studied your vocabulary. I would see if she makes any other moves with you, and I would try to slip into conversation the question of whether she's seeing someone. I have that same problem too, wanting to ask someone out but then realizing they already have a boyfriend. Had a really close call once! Good luck, I know how much you probably like her.

Answer 5

Racer 51 is right, you do speak VERY well for being 11 years old. It sounds like you are doing just fine with the girls already. " Back in the day", when I was your age, when I picked a boy to be on my team, it was because I liked him. This girl likes you,....trust me!

Answer 6

Sounds like you like her back, if you didn't then you wouldn't have been embarrased. Find out from sources if shes single. Chances are, shes not if she likes you. Give it a shot...what have you got to lose? Besides, every guy in school would kill if she ends up becoming your girlfriend. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Well talk to her and get to know her,and when you 2 do ask her if she is with anyone, then ask her out who knows she may like u 2 have confidence and also friends can be even better!!!

Answer 8

try not to be nervous around her, i know tis hard, but be fiendly and hang out, sooner of later she will relize waht a great guy you are then make your move and take her to the movies!

Answer 9

Well maybe she is just really nice.You can't help it if someone is really friendly.But maybe she is digging you a bit,you never know,there may be some love.

Answer 10

Haha. Im a tomboy

Answer 11

you speak a little older than 11.