I met this guy awhile ago and we talked about going out. Then i hung out with him yesterday and he said that he could never go out with me because i was too young. Then he said he wanted to be friends with benefits. One problem i like himt oo much to see him with other girls and also he thinks i am 16 when i am really turning 18 next week. I told him i was 16 because i thought he was younger and i never thought we would meet up again. How do i tell him that i am 18 and how do i tell him that friends with benefits wont workout. I REALLY like this guy and i dont know what his problem is. And if a guy wants to be friends with benefits does he think you are attractive??? And is friends with benefits good??
2007-05-21 12:31:12 · 20 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS IS A TRAP!
if he wouldnt date you because of your "young age" it would be because its like illegal to have a physical relationship. your jail bait.
him wanting to be friends with benefits contradicts that. practically proves what a player he is in not wanting a relationship just a booty call. i could be wrong but thats the vibe im getting.
lol it might be funny to tell him straight up youre 18. he prolly wont believe you, and you'll need to bust out your drivers license. play it off as funny and you'll have an inside joke years from now!
2007-05-21 12:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with this guy. Tell him why you told him you were 16 instead of 18. Yes, someone wanting to be your friend with benefits is good. It means they think you are attractive but just doesnt want to be tied down at this point. The only thing thats probably stopping you and this guy from going out is the age thing, so once thats cleared you should be happily with him.=]
2007-05-21 12:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by Allison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah friends with benefits can be good. but there is a point where things are going to be awkward. i think you should just tell the guy that you really are 18. he might be interested in you but he just didnt want to be with you because you're "16". Maybe if you tell him your real age he'll want to form a relationship with you or something. You guys should be more than friends.
2007-05-21 12:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie_smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with benefits is a bit like an open relationship.. so yeah he thinks ur attractive but he wants to keep his options open... and u shud never lie especially not to someone you like, it could lose you their respect so all you can really do is tell him the truth and say sorry and explain why you did it. in the process of doing this you could inform him that you want more than to be just friends with benefits and the worst that can happen is he says he doesnt want anything with u! so you know what might happen, you've got nothing to lose! good luck!
2007-05-21 12:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by chanelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You started your courtship with him based on a lie you told him. So you probably won't be able to trust each other sometimes, because that history will always be there.
But if you want to prove your age to him, just show him your drivers license.
As far as friends with benefits, that only works when BOTH people are in CLEAR and TOTAL agreement that they want the other as a sex partner, and NOT as a boyfriend or girlfriend. In other words, if you have feelings for him that are where you would want him as a boyfriend, then DO NOT have casual sex and expect him to "come around" and fall in love with you.
Whatever you do, MOST IMPORTANTLY -- Take extra extra precautions to NOT GET PREGNANT!!! Orgasms are awesome, but kids are forever.
2007-05-21 12:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by jasonross1234 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, tell him your older, so u may have the upper hand in the relationship. Second of all, if he really likes you he would not just want to be "friends with benefits" but just friends in a level of RESPECT. the benefit part of the relationship means, he does not really like you in the way you do. He just wants to get a piece of you, if u know what i mean...he wants your nuts.
2007-05-21 12:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by altern_self 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea to get into a friends with benifets setup with someone you like, it could well destroy the relationship you have. You need to be detached emotionally with the guy to do this.
Tell the guy your 18, then work from there. Unfortunly there is no such thing as "free sex"
2007-05-21 12:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits is good if you want a friend whom you can also get some from sometimes. It's not good when you really like someone and want a relationship. So if it's not something that'll satisfy you, don't do it.
2007-05-21 12:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i really dont think friendship w/benefits is the best way to go, if you truly have self respect for yourself. to be honest w/you, if a guy tells you that he only wants friendship w/benefits with you then i wouldnt suggest that guy for you.
the reason is because he may never be commited to you in the near future because he may have somebody else in mind.
2007-05-21 12:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by All Users 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings than you cant do friends with benefits because youre going to get hurt. Just be straight with him
2007-05-21 12:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋