How do I get my ex boyfriend to leave me alone?

Question

My ex boyfriend keeps on calling and text messaging me.It's drivin me crazy..He just won't leave me alone.

Answer 1

I had a problem like this with an ex boyfriend.

I just never answered him....I ignored him all the time. He would call about 100 times a day....I don't know if he didn't have a life or what, lol. And honestly, I didn't really care. My husband (boyfriend at the time) kept telling me to change my number, but I REALLY didn't want to have to go through all of that because of him. I had the same number for years and I really didn't feel like getting a new one.

Finally, after he tried to break into my house one day, I was able to call the cops on him....he immediately called MY MOM and was telling her all this nonsense, LOL. She called me and had all of these wild things to tell me about myself....which I found very interesting, haha.

Anyway....the calls eventually stopped. He texts me once every 3 months or so now.

I just had to learn to have my phone on silent all the time and check it every once in awhile. Now it's just a habit and I miss calls all the time due to it not being on! haha.

I know this is a rough time....but you just gotta not let him know that he's driving you crazy. Eventually he'll get the point....at least I'd think so...

Answer 2

It depends on when you broke up with him...I take it you are ignoring this person. Do you see this person on a regular basis i.e. High School, College etc? The key is to tell him you are dating someone else or if it comes down to it changing your cell number may work. Is he pleading with you or is he threatening you? If you feel threatened you can always call the police or even call his parents and explain your situation to them in a "nice" way. Have you tried telling him via text or phone call to stop calling and texting you? Sometimes men or boys don't understand subtle hints or cues. Be as nice as possible but DO NOT beat around the bush.

Answer 3

Well, it's normal for someone to come back and beg on their knees sobbing now and again. However, his persistent, relentless obsession with you leads me to believe something else entirely. He may just be determined to have you. On the other hand, he may have borderline personality disorder. These people seem nearly impossible to leave, because, of their abandonment issues. They phone, message, annoy you all day! They also have several other traits to clue you in to their diagnosis such as a Jekyl, and Hyde way of relating to others. Relentless and sweet may become emotional abusive in a long term relationship. Look the disorder up on line. There's a book you may want to order called splitting. It explains how to react to and leave a borderline. Good Luck!!!!!

Answer 4

Two Words:

Restraining Order

In some states they are called protective orders, just go to or call your local DPS and tell them what's going on.

This is more of a last-resort or emergency solution depending on the situation, so before you file a retraining order:

Tell him you don't want to have any contact with him

Make it very clear to him

Block his number (option is usually under settings/security menu on phone)

If that doesn't work or if you feel threatened, get a restraining order

Answer 5

Restraining order 101! no joke text him and say leave me alone...really...and if you don't I am going to get a restraining order on you..even though you can't persay..because he has to be threatning you...a freako ex bf that is desperate and can't move on..will think it is true and go away..if he doesn't then say you went to the police station and talked to them about a protective/ or restraining order and he will think you did that time and back off! god I feel for you! those are the worst! worse then a cry baby bf! haha! or change your number...I know Sprint does NOT block numbers for you...you have to change your number and then give it to your friends but if he is friends with your friends or friend of a friend! (blah!) he will get it! and it will be pointless to have changed it...my ex did this and I would turn my phone off..he would call and I would hit ignore then turn it off for awhile then he knew I turned it off because of him and stopped calling...if he calls again after you turn it on to check your VMs or whatever..ignore it (push the ignore button) and turn it off again...he will lose intrest..

Answer 6

Just do what I did, totally ignore him, guys have this weird thing about "wanting to be friends." I personally hate that. If you have caller id, don't pick up the call, delete your texts, if you don't have caller id, then make up an excuse to get off the phone, eventually he will get the message.

Answer 7

A few steps. You can call your phone provider and have his number blocked for good. Also ask any one who knows both of you to not deliver any messages or associate you with him in any way. If he gets threatening or stalks then a resraining order is your only other option. Good luck.

Answer 8

Restraining order if he continues and your parents, friends, and support system don't seem to work.
Watch out because he could get very angry if he sees you with another new friend.. Seriously..
Get this resolved soon and change all your habits..Stay away from mutual friends til he heals. And don't go to the same places he goes to.
Try and talk to him with a mediator present so that yelling and abuse doesn't enter into resolving it.
good luck...

Answer 9

dont answer or text back, dont even read the text just delete them. Call him one time tell him to leave you alone. If he does not stop call the cops!

Answer 10

Simply tell him to leave you alone and have him move on with his life so you can go on as well, if he doesn't stop bothering you, try changing your numbers and let your parents know what's going on.