My grandpa is pretty sick and is now in a nursing home for the remainder of his life(hopefully a very long time). There was a time when we thought we were going to lose him so the priest in our town went to see him. My grandparents went to church every sunday, so they knew the priest pretty well. Before leaving the hospital after visiting my grandpa, the priest said something like"don't forget about me and the church in your will". This made me so mad. How many priests have brainwashed the elderly into leaving money to the church? Was he out of line or is ok to ask someone with 4 children and 12 grandchildren to leave his money to the church? I don't need the money, but I want it before it goes to the church!
2007-05-21 10:51:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Please listen to what I have to say. I'm 14, and I want to be a priest. My family members told me a story of the priest convincing their aunt to give the will to the priest and their aunt's house, well, went to the priest and the Church. I find this wrong as well, I feel that the concern of a priest is to help perform last rites. I don't know why the priest did that, I'm assuming he fell under the temptation of greed, which is his sin. Please don't stop going to church, treat him the same, just be careful with those who want to steal your money. Many Protestant pastors do worse, since they have access to the money. Protestants pastors can do what they please with the church's money and many of times they run off with it. It's harder for a priest to do that, but some manage. Don't lose faith and it's not your fault nor the priests. We all sin, God bless you in each way. Mother Mary, Virgin Mother of God, pray for the grandfather in the story.
2007-05-21 11:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That last phrase makes you sound as greedy as the priest. Yes, many older priests are taught to say that sort of thing.
When we were trying to have my son baptized, I couldn't get the priest assigned to us to call us back for a month or two. Finally, there was a meeting. Toward the end of it, he asked my husband where he was from. My husband told him Puerto Rico and the priest, who isn't too old, said "You're awfully light skinned to be a Puerto Rican." I truly believe that's why he wasn't calling us back. He didn't want another s p i c in the congregation. He didn't even have the baptismal certificate ready for us when the baptism occurred. That said, you can't judge an entire Church on the basis of a few misguided priests. They're only human, after all, despite what some of them would like to think.
2007-05-21 10:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It was in very poor taste for the Priest to say that.
Unless it might have been sort of an "in" joke between them. If they knew the priest well, he might have had that kind of relationship with him. They may have jokingly discussed it.
I would not worry too much about it. Besides, you really have no say anyway. What your grandparents do with their money is up to them. If they decide to leave it ALL to the church, that is their perogative.
By the way, priests are prohibited from taking monetary gifts like that. They take a vow of poverty. It can be donated to the church parish, but not to the priest directly.
2007-05-21 10:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's been countless amounts of priest doing that to the elderly! They appear to like to abuse &use people that are at a disadvantage! Molesting kids, brain washing the elderly, keeping the silence etc. It's disgusting & wrong! Yes it was out of line, rude & disrespectful! Good luck sweetheart! Just to verify I have no hate toward priest just thier actions.
2007-05-21 11:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do not ask you about your sex life at all. It all depends on whether or not both of you are Catholic. Ordinarily if both are Catholic, they ask if you plan on raising any children in the Catholic faith and ask if you are getting married freely of your own will. In addition, there is some kind of pre-marital counseling--usually Pre-Cana. The length of time depends on the church and how they structure it, but it's not long at all. It's actually a great and valuable experience.
2016-05-19 01:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! The priest sounds conceited! The church has other ways of getting money! This is your grandfathers money. He shouldn't be influenced and pressured, especially in his old age, to do something special with the money!
2007-05-21 10:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by onbelay_belayon 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The priest should not have asked this, but it is probably a joke, however, I would investigate because I do not believe the priest should ask for someones money for the Church, much less himself.
2007-05-21 10:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your grandparents were devout in their faith. Your grandfather, did he react to the priest? You don't say he was upset but that you were. Your grandparents probably, as members of a parish, pledged tithes to their church (of 10%gross). Your grandfather would best determine if he had given as his heart dictated. I myself, have but one beneficiary, The Church of Christ. My church helps the world (ie: the Darfar, Malaysia, the Archdiocese Housing Authority, etc.).
2007-05-21 11:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by InSeattle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That priest was absolutely wrong. You will your worldly possessions to anyone you desire. Coercing anyone to give anything to the church is a sin. The Bible says let people give according to what they've purposed in their heart. Unfortunately, the Catholic Church has been that way for a long time. At least since Martin Luther's days. I guess some things never change.
2007-05-21 10:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Maybe he was joking or maybe he was serious.
Some people (not just Catholics) do remember a church in their will.
If he was serious, that was a bad time to bring it up. But don't make a judgment on the Catholic Church from the words of one man
2007-05-21 10:55:58 · answer #10 · answered by Veritas 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋