theif in the family?

Question

my sister in law watches my son and takes him to school, and i really appreciate it. i gave her a key to my house so that she can get food and things that she might need for my son during the day. she has a history of stealing (she is 17) but we thought she grew out of it. my husband and i have found that a lot of our things are missing from minor things (earrings, makeup, hair produts,laundry soap) to major things like some of my husbands expensive clothes and even food out of our refrigerator,like meat from the freezer which i know she is not cooking for my son. and i know that my mother in law is telling her to take the food because she is a big moocher.what should we do i really want my key back but do not know the polite way to ask for it. FYI when she did not have the key she still found ways to break in to our house through windows and such. HELP

Answer 1

Wow! This is too much....I think you should make a list of items that are missing and talk to your husband ASAP. Make a list of the amount you are missing so you can present it to them: your sister in law and her mother.

You should be ready for hell to break loose.

If your sister in law has taken those things, she should be told you WILL NOT take it anymore. And that you want your key back immediately. If she refuses, change the locks so she cannot use her key anymore.

If she denies doing these things and her mother comes to her rescue, your husband will have to set his foot down - they're his family, not yours!- and be very blunt.

HE has to back you up and say that his sister is no longer welcome into your house because her behaviour is not only stupid, but also downright dangerous. I mean...BREAKING IN?? HELLOOO?!?! She is 17...She should know right from wrong! She can get in serious problems if she continues down this path!

Before you do this and confront them, talk to your husband.
If you and he act as a team, you will be stronger.

Good luck....It will be ugly but you have to get rid of this problem soon!

Also, consider having your child taken to school by someone else, because the last thing you need is your kid watching someone take other people's things. (Remember, children are like little sponges, and they absorb everything they see and hear!)

Answer 2

there is no need to be polite.just say you want it but, it may not help. she could get a copy made.if she has a key for just one door, change the lock. keep everything locked when you're not home.find a new sitter or she can just watch him at her house . bring her all the things she may need so there are no complaints. if you're concerned about her breaking in, you may have to get a surveillance camera. honestly, i'd find someone new and ask your husband to confront her.

Answer 3

Tell her to fork the key over or our calling the cops. And tell them about them about the missing items, and they will investigate. It may take some time, but you could take this woman to court if she doesn't give you your key back. Answer my question currently open on my profile. Thanks!