why do guy still watch porn and when they are in a relationship??
2007-05-21 10:29:51 · 20 answers · asked by Jamie T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
I recently had this problem. I wondered why when I asked my boyfriend not to watch porn, why he continued to do so. No as you probably did I asked the general questions. Is it me? Am I not giving him what he needs? Does he like the ladies in the movies more? Now one thing I can do is to tell you to stop doing this. Those statements are all incorrect. A man watches and uses porn as a visual stimulant. Its an aid. He doesn't do it because he doesn't love you - he does it because it is an unconnected way for him to become aroused, men do not use their imaginations like us women. They just haven't got the compacity to do two things at once, so they concentrate on their dicks and look at the pics. ( God forbid a guy Concentrating on their visualized erotic scene and still managing to get a hard one)
He wont want to upset you, or make you feel insecure, besides isn't it better that he looks at the pictures on TV than real women? You never know he could be looking at them wishing you would walk in the room naked wearing some sexy number and strip off for him (I imagine if their was porn on and you did that then it doesn't take a genius to work out what he would rather watch)
If it really bothers you it might be an idea to talk to him about it. Explain that you don't want to ristrict him from doing this (It would just make it more exciting cause of it being wrong) but raher that you would appreciate it if he would have the decency to keep it out of your site as it bothers you. This way he can still have his outlet (Like 95% of all men) and you wont feel insecure about it (75% of women)
You are not alone. We all go through it.
Oh and ignore the remarks by the children. They will understand one day.
2007-05-23 10:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Becca P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-27 17:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While the attention is usually directed towards guys who watch porn while in relationships, the point should be made that there are plenty of women who watch porn as well, for their own personal enjoyment, sexual gratification, or even watch it with their boyfriends... I think it is good to keep an open mind regarding his interest in porn... ask questions as to why he likes it, find out information on what turns him on... I would not see it as immediate cheating or jealousy or you not meeting his standards so he is turning to porn.
There are so many different kinds of adult entertainment...maybe you and he could find something you both could like!
2007-05-21 11:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, when we're not around they need release, or they are trying to get your attention and maybe watch it with them. Guys are visually stimulated, i dont know a guy who doesnt watch porn, relationship or not. If its interfering with your relationship to where he would much rather have porn than you, then there might be a problem, but if he loves you and only you and only watches porn when he cant have you, then whats the big deal?
2007-05-21 10:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes they do. I've been with my man for over two and a half years and he still watches porn. Men are visual creatures, they need visual stimulus to masturbate. And even while in a relationship masturbation is important and healthy.
2016-04-01 01:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy watching porn has nothing to do with being in a relationship, for whatever reason men love to watch it, my husband really enjoys it and sometimes when i don't feel like putting out he can do his thing and leave me alone, so sometimes porn is a good thing. let him have his fantasy at least he is not out and about spreading his love around
2007-05-21 10:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by AJSMOM 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the guys have their needs but its still wrong to do it when you have a girlfriend. It just aint right ya know? They may not have a relationship that gets physical or sexual yet so all they have is their hand and a computer with a fast internet connection.
2007-05-21 10:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by BBallplyr255 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the male equivilant of us watching hot guys in movies, FANTASY! It is no reflection on the girl, it's just what guys do. Men are visually stimulated while us girls are more into emotions. To be honest, I wouldn't trust a guy who didn't watch porn. It's not natural not to.
2007-05-21 10:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by Elphaba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
come on jamie you know guys there gross even the nice ones theres probably 1 in 1000 guys that don't watch porn and are nice.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-05-21 10:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by kelsi c 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ask yourself this. what would you prefer them just wacthing porn or doing it with someone else?its probably a habit. they did it before they meet you. their going to do it during the time they are with you and after you guys break up (if you do)
2007-05-21 10:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by bunnygrl43 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋