mature serious help needed-boyfriend suffers from obesity?

Question

its my turn for advice. I have been dating this great man for
8 months. He has proposed to me daily. I love him, hes handsome, smart, successful, funny and good to me, but
he is 6 foot 3, and maybe 500lbs. Its getting so that I am
becoming disgusted when I see him. He is getting more lazy,
tired all the time, wears the same clothes-only ones that
fit him, his car is a mess, and sometimes he smells really
really bad. He has terrible hygeine issues. I tried to tell him
we should take a break and he told me I am his life, he
told me he would do anything for me, yet, I have asked him
for 8 months to lose weight and take care of himself. I have
tried EVERYTHING. and, his family is very strange, very
dysfunctional, they all hate doctors, and its almost like
they ignore that their son is dying a slow death. I dont
want to hurt this man, but I am becoming disgusted and
devastated. Any advice out there? Please, only reply
if you have personal experience with this. This is all new
to me.

Answer 1

You can't make him do anything he doesn't want to. Ask yourself if you're his girlfriend or his caretaker. What will it be like in 5 years, and in 25 years, and in 50 years. Do you want kids? Do you want someone who is overweight, under motivated and depressed as a father, or as a husband?
He's going to crash, bottom out. Loosing you will be horrible when you walk away, but you need to do it for you. You can't nurse him the rest of your life.
If he threatens something drastic, like taking his life if you go, call 911. Remember, you are not trained in mental health. Calling 911 will get him temporary help if he needs it, and you aren't sucked back in.
Don't cry because you feel bad for him, cry because break-ups always hurt, It's time to live.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

find calorie/fitness calculator on the net, enter all your stats and it will tell you how many calories you need a day to maintain, take off 300-400cal off that number and thats how much you need to lose.
eat 5-6 small meals a day (eat every 2-3 hours)
5-8 servings of fruit and veggies a day
8 glasses of water
have complex carbs for breakfast - they give you energy
have lean meat (protein) for dinner - repairs muscle
cardio exercise 4-6 times a week for 30-50min, light weight training
dont consume foods that are made of white flour (white bread, cakes, past etc.), sugar loaded foods (cookies, icecream, candy etc) and nothing fried, oily.
ofcourse you can spoil yourself once in a while with a little treat:)

Answer 4

What was your explaination to him as to why you guys should take a break?

You should definately say to him the stuff that you mentioned on here and maybe consider giving him tough love of "either you lose some weight, or it's over".

Answer 5

He needs therapy. Unfortunately, you cannot fix him, and unless he wants to get help, you cannot make him.

All you can do is tell him that he needs to get help, and unless he goes to therapy and makes a real effort to do some personal work, you are going to leave. And then follow through. If he doesn't get help, leave. There is no point in tying yourself to that kind of emotional mess. It will ruin you life. I'm sorry.

Answer 6

I comprehend thoroughly. you extremely like your boyfriend's character and stuff, yet you apart from mght locate your ex captivating nonetheless. that is like having a crappy music caught on your head grew to become as much as the loudest quantity so as that the songs you like are not heard as lots. the factor is; you do not write on your ex. you're actually not decrease back alongside with him, and you nonetheless love your boyfriend. that is not what you think of approximately that defines you, in my view; that is what you prefer to act on. whether you fantasize approximately your ex, as long as you stay committed on your bf, you're nice. in terms of having over him, you won't have the ability to. a minimum of, not yet. After a whilst, it will purely fade out of your head, purely like the undesirable music that receives caught on your head.

Answer 7

you can tell you bf that you do love him and that your only saying this cause you care for him. tell him that this isnt a healthy life syle choice for him. and not to be rude but life will get hard with obesity. if he dosent care or dosent follow it. try subsitutes. instead of fatttsy foods replace it with lowfat or fatfree foods. he may only listen if you do it with him. nomatter how slim you are everyone one should eat and exersise healthy. walk around you block once aleast your doing somthing.