hello everyone, i have a difficult situation in my life, my parents are ill and i have to study, work to support myself and pay my college and everything, and i dont have much time for myself, which is very sad because i am 23 and i cant remember the last time i went out... i always have to do 10 things at the same time and i feel such a pressure.... ok the fact is that i do everything that i have to do at home, help my father ( since my mother cant do anything) and we fight a lot... i really love my parents and i would do anything for them but when we fight i usually get so frustrated ( because i feel like no one appreciates me enough) that i tell them some really nasty things, i really feel bad about it, i know my words hurt them and i always regret being so explosive, i should keep my f.....g mouth shut... i feel really bad about myself, am i just frustrated or am i a really bad person? i always regret those things that i say during our fights, it makes me sad, i dont know what to
2007-05-21 10:03:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not a bad person just because you do something that isn't nice. I have a problem sometimes with my tongue, too. Small little viper that it is! I try to hold my tongue to the roof of my mouth when I feel this way as I can't talk when I do that. And while you are doing that you can remind yourself that you can't undo what you said and that you will feel like crap later so is it really worth it.
Good luck. You do have a lot on your plate and it might be a good idea to try to lighten your load - get some help from other family members or contact social services to see if they have an adult daycare program or have meals that can be delivered to your home, or anything else that is available that will lighten your load.
2007-05-21 10:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
woooo take a deep breathe and let it out slowly. I feel your frustration and it sounds like you've taken on quite a bit for a young adult. You deserve a break every once in awhile too. Give it to yourself. If nothing else, go to a movie, or buy some food and have a picnic in a park. Do things that give you pleasure. A simply trip to the mall and buy something that would make you feel better.
But understand, your parents need you. Their family and no one helps and loves and cares better than family. If you have relatives that live near by, ask for help once in awhile. Don't feel like you have to do this all alone.
Don't fight with them. Or say things you will regret, it only makes you feel bad. You have enough to feel bad about without piling it on.
But you really do need to give yourself a break and have some fun. Do it soon. HUGS
2007-05-21 10:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello,
You have alot on your plate being so young. You are doing a job that needs to be done. Just do it without thinking about it and dont get frustrated. just think of how it would be if you took your dads place and he were you. Words cut like a knife. Ask GOD for strength and guidance. Just keep doing what your parents need you to do and believe me you will be rewarded for doing so. Just step outside yourself and take a look in and you will change. Good luck and GOD bless you!
2007-05-21 10:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not a bad person just human.you cannot continue like this it is not healthy or fair to you.i dont know how ill your parents are but hospice is a wonderful group of people who may be able to give you a much needed break.call them if they cannot help maybe they know some group or person who could.if you dont have any other family members then maybe if you attend a church or other religious organization they should be able to help in some way.just tell your parents you are sorry for whatever you said and that you love them.its going to be all right! good luck.
2007-05-21 10:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the best things in life that you have to work towards require sacrafice...but also remember that family comes first...as frustrating as that might be, but take into consideration that before you can help any one you need to help yourself...next time your frustrated i suggest writting in a journal or leaning on a friend instead of taking it out on your family cuz youll just feel worse about everything...good luck and take care!
2007-05-21 10:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a bad person..I know how frustrating taking care of a sick parent can be...is there any way you could bring in some nursing care? I know they are expensive, but worth every cent...maybe medicaid would help with it, it did for my mother...call an agency that deals with home health care.
2007-05-21 10:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋