My 19 yr old expects too much from me, how do I turn that off?

Question

He wants rides to friends, wants to heist my cell phone, wants laundry, and $ hand outs all the while he will only mow half our large lot now.

Answer 1

Tell him to take responsibility. If he wants to use the phone or get a ride tell him he has to mow the lawn or do a chore first. Take him to the DMV to get his permit and license and stop giving him money. Tell him to get a job that way he can spend all the money he wants and be able to purchase his own cell phone. You can even cut him a deal by having a family plan where you pay the amount you are currently paying and he only pay $10 each month.

Answer 2

Hmmm...this is an easy question. Thankfully, all those other family questions are scary.

Say no when he asks for a ride, unless he has money in hand for gas.

Say no when he wants to borrow your phone. Tell him, "Because it is mine."

Tell him he can have clean laundry when he washes it.

Tell him he can come to dinner when the lawn is finished.

Answer 3

my parents raised my brother and i completely different. he's 22, still living at home, getting EVERYTHING from them. they cook for him, clean for him, my mom got him his job, and they take him to and from school/work every day.

on the other hand, i'm 19, moved out, taking care of myself. they gave me money when i was younger, but i think they saw how bad it ended up for my brother, so they stopped cold turkey with me. I was angry at first... since he got sooo much, and i was expected to do it all on my own. but i'm already thanking them.

your son may not realize it right away, but if you give him some tough love, he'll see its benefits eventually. you'd be acting in his best interest. he does need to learn to be self-sufficient before he's 22 and you're still running the shower for him finding his clean socks.

Answer 4

Learn to say no and not feel one bit guilty about it. If you are going in that direction that is one thing but he should have his own transportation and insurance. To obtain this he should be working a job and not be picky about where he works either.

Answer 5

tell him to get a job. he won't be independant as long as you keep supporting him. the word NO always works. If he gets mad... he's an adult.. maybe he'll move out.

Answer 6

You need to put your foot down. He needs to get a job.

Answer 7

sounds like to me he needs to get a job or get the hell out.

Answer 8

TELL HIM TO TAKE ON RESPONSIBILITY!!!! ALSO LEARN TO SAY "NO" AND STICK TO IT