Dealing with my anger,is my depression causing it?

Question

I have really weird mood swings,i have been particularly depressed lately and i find that i'm very irritable,angry and moody. The slightest thing someone says to me or does annoys me. My mom also suffers from depression and is bed ridden,she constantly wants my attention and because i'm battling with my own depression i slapped her face out of anger today. I hate the way this depression makes me feel,i'm scared i cant control myself sometimes,and i drink whenever i get anxious,help?

Answer 1

Honey, I know how you feel. I felt the same way not too long ago and have made some improvements. Here are some things that might help. B vitamins. I take a liquid version about 2 times a day and it makes a huge difference. Also lots of protein in the diet because that's where we get our B vitamins, in things like eggs, dairy and meat products. If you are a vegan do some research on plant based B vitamins. Also, limit your coffee intake and drink lots of water. Getting off hormones if you are taking birth control has been a great way for me stop the mood swings. Using non hormonal birth control (if you are heterosexual) can really make a difference. Exercise and friends support. These are lifestyle changes and they take time. Be patient with yourself and take your time. Also, working in my garden or being outside, under a tree really helps me also. Know that you are loved and feeling crazy in this world is actually a reaction that can get you closer to being healthy and should be seen in a positive light if you can make those changes.
Good luck

Answer 2

There are a couple of things I have picked up in your question.
First you say your mom has depression and it is common knowledge that depression is inherited.
The second thing I picked up on is that you are looking after your mother by yourself, if your mother is bed ridden is there any help available for you?
The main question you have asked is can depression cause moods swings and temper. There are a couple of things to consider ever person needs a certain level of stress in there life to function however the human body can only take so much stress before it breaks down. The best way of thinking of this is to consider the body as a plastic cup with a small hole in the bottom, if the stress is like water so long as the water dripping into the cup fills it slower than the water dripping out the bottom there will be no problems. However if there is more water filling the top of the cup then the water dripping out there will be problems.
Stress is exactly the same so long as the stress levels are low there will be no problems however if your stress levels are high there will come a point where a very small issue will tip your balance and you blow up.
It sounds like you have some major stress in your life with your mum.
I would strongly recommend that you try to get help with your mum and also get down to the doctors to see if there is any medication that he can put you on.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Ohhhhhhhhhh - that sounds sooooooo familiar!!

Be reassured that you are not the only one suffering with anger, depression, uncontrollable mood swings, and all the rest!

The drinking will not, in the long run help matters at all, although i can understand why it is tempting to use the alcohol to try and block everything out and calm down. As other people have said try other relaxation techniques instead of the alcohol - music, fils, whatever works for you.

You ask if the depression is causing the anger - i would say (from personal experience) that it is the other way round - anger, especially that which itn't expressed in a suitable way, can have a prefound effect on mental health.

Agasin - i would reinforce what others have said about going to your GP to get suitable medication, and i would also ask him about getting help with looking after your mum.
you don't say why she is bed-ridden, but maybe trying to change that, to get her out from the same four walls would help her depression, and if she isn't so demanding of you then that would give you a chance to help yourself. maybe it's possible for you to get some carers in to help get her out of bed, or at least take over some of the care from you, and maybe you could get some respite care where either she goes somewhere else for a few days every so often, or day care, either with her going somewhere for the day or with someone coming as sitting with her while you have some time out - even if its so you can have a bath in peace, or go for a walk or do the shopping without having to worry about your mum.

This is a difficult one - and I would definitely suggest getting some professional help from your GP, in the first instance.

Answer 4

Well pardon me for not being real gentle here, but I have depression too and I have some hard advice for you. First of all, and most importantly if you cannot control your urges to be violent, then you need to see a doctor immediately. Slapping someone who is bed-ridden is.......well......pretty cruel, if I were you I would apologize to her for doing that as soon as possible, you only have one mom, and if you were to judge your own self worth on how you just treated your mom, it isnt a surprise to me that you are depressed. Secondly if you think you can control your behavior, I would highly suggest surrounding yourself with people that are worse off than you that need your help. Doesnt matter who, just get out of yourself, do something helpful and nice for someone without any payment, and do it often. The hard truth here is that often the cause of most depression is our lack of self worth and confidence stemming from our extreme self-centeredness, if you want to be happy, and not in depression or self pity, you need to behave in a happy, helpful, worthwhile manner. You cannot think highly of yourself, if you arent willing to do "high" things, like being a kind, helpful person. If this doesnt sound like it applies to you, then I would encourage you to see a doctor or a therapist for a more professional, and conclusive opinion. Also if I were you I would knock it off with the alcohol right away. You dont even want the problems associated with how that is going to play out. Escaping the problem in the bottle will only make it 10 times worse. Besides it is a cowardly answer to the problem.

Answer 5

ask yourself why you slapped your mother? only you will have the answers to how you feel this way, so the next time you feel angry, try to feel how the anger has come about, having your mum being depressed and counting on you cannot be easy on you, and i think you slapping your mum is an indication that you don't like the situation that your in. Try to talk to someone about his and you shall find the answer, but i will say having 2 depressed people together is not a very good thing as depression will feed off one to the next ( as i think thats happened with your poor mother), understand your mother is poorly, don't get angry at her, control your anger, as you CAN control it and you will feel better for trying and definately go and get help and talk to someone about this.

Answer 6

well your situation your in is causing you to feel trapped thats why your angery but I must stress you must not hit your poor mom she is in no way able to defend herself and what you did was very wrong and well not nice. You need to go see a DR and get some help, sounds like you need some time out to find out what you want in life. Another piece of advice is to stop drinking this makes depression worst and I know what im on about. Sort yourself out by living life with a smile and not being a victim of life. Go look in the mirror and ask yourself one question, what do I want from this life I have? Then get up tomorrow and do it.........just go bloody do it and have as much fun as you can. Live your life as though it's your last day because oneday you will be right.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

You don't say why your mom is bedridden but maybe that's not important. You need to get help ASAP. Many people, myself included have had to reach out to a therapist from time to time. Alcohol is absolutely no help. It isn't unusual that your mom's illness should increase your feelings of depression.. I agree with the writer who said you both should get help. If you don't have coverage, check the county mental health people. If you have at some time been the victim of abuse, it might take years for the anger to surface. GET HELP

God Bless.

Answer 9

These are several medications that you can take for mood swings, and depression. I would call your Mental Health Department in your City or County. Also if your fortunate to live in a large city, normally Universities conduct all sorts of mental help evaluations with frr treatment, which includes therapy and medications. If you email me, and tell me where you live, I will help you get the help you really need!

Answer 10

You need professional help. If you are not seeing someone about it, you need to. Take some anger management courses, anything, being proactive about your condition keeps you busy and gets your mind off of things. It will make you more aware of what you are doing. I am sorry to hear about your depression. Talk to friends, get out of the house, take up a new hobby anything that keeps you busy and doesn't allow you to sit and be depressed. I know there's more to it, but professional help is your best solution to fixing it long term wise.