My ex and I became friends after he broke up with me. But, I've notice when I'm talking to (interested in) another guy, or he is talking to another girl he will be REALLY RUDE to me or ignore me. But when we're not talking to anyone else, he is really friendly and even flirty with me. He even acts like he wants to get back together, but I just want to be friends. Then, I'll be interested in another guy, and he's rude again. It has been this way off and on all year. He is not like that with anyone else, just me. I mean, he has liked other girls, but he can remain friends with them. I've talked to him about it but he just says he's upset about different stuff.... What is going on and what do I do?
2007-05-21 09:38:14 · 18 answers · asked by Hope 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
personally, i think that he isnt over you yet. please stop being friends with him. i think you are giving him hope of rekindling the flame...when there isnt any.
the poor boy is all jumbled up. he is friends with you and cant see why he cant have you.
that is why he gets rude when the other guys are around. some part of him is holding onto you with everything it has got and you are not making it easier on him by being his friend.
if you have more details to add, please add them. like how long after you broke up did you become friends. and how long were you dating.
2007-05-21 09:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Fi K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alright, by the title of your question it's clear to see you wanted a guy to answer, but I'm going to anyway. It seems to me like your ex still has strong feelings for you, which is why he is being so crabby whenever there's another guy around. He's probably being a jerk to you because he's jealous and that's his way of showing it. Is he mean to you when you're talking to your girlfriends? Probably not, which means he just is upset you're interested in someone else. Maybe you should talk to him about this and address the fact that you like him as a friend but not more. You two cannot have a friendship like this where he is always a jerk when other guys are around.
2007-05-21 09:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by danielle b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young men are the least complicated issue on the face of the planet - they wear their emotions like clothes. The boy has not gotten over you! He really hasn't been able to close the relationship door. Unfortunately, he can't control these emotions! He likely isn't even aware of why he is acting the way he is... Most of the time, this particular occurance is a result of "Miss-information" : a descriptor which means females have trouble being as detailed as men like. Either break your freindship - or be prepare to talk a lot more than you have - he needs to know what he did wrong, why the relationship won't work, and what he can do to fix it... (in boy terms)
2007-05-21 09:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tim h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys can be jerks. I hate to say that about us, but we can be. It's really hard to fight those jerk tendencies. It seems to me that he is trying to play both sides. He didn't want to break up, but he wanted to be with someone else at the same time. Since that wasn't possible he played "the friend" card. But to keep from being obvious that he still has feelings for you he treats you mean when your around someone else he's interested in. As far as you being with other guy's, his attitude is based off of pure jealousy. He still has feelings, but hasn't gotten all the "flirt" out his system. So in the mean-time he doesn't want to see you with anyone else because that'll ruin what he's trying to do. Approach with this new found knowledge. Be very forward and frank. Put your "so-called" friendship on the line and tell him how you don't appreciate how he's been treating you. If he doesn't change his ways, get rid of him. He's no good friend if he doesn't want to see you happy.
2007-05-21 09:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Doug P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh man. That sounds exactly like my ex. He used rude to me whenever there's a lot of other people around, but when it was just me and him, he was just like how you said your ex is.
You could try talking to him again about it, and tell him to stop being so rude, and if he doesn't stop, then don't let him into your life. I tried that with my ex, and it worked for me.
I hope this helps, even though you asked for a guy to answer.
2007-05-21 09:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by marleena w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know if my answer can help u. But this is the same situation happend to me. What i did is to ingore him for like 3 months; didnt pick up his calls.;no contact.. untill oneday i receive his text asking what did he pissed me off. and what he did wrong. At that time.. i talk to him face to face and we decided to become friend a gain ( if u dont luv him animore.. or u guys get back together if u still luv him ) .
Hope this is work for you too.
2007-05-21 09:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by lilwtran 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is just being possessive, not a good trait in any person. Keep in mind the only reason he is being nice to you is for sex. It doesn't matter if you are having sex with him now, just that he keeps the option open.
The fact that you just want to be friends is meaningless. You are naive and fooling yourself if you don't realize he is only talking to you so he can nail you.
2007-05-21 09:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man can have a Dog for a Friend
A Man can have Whiskey for a Friend
But if a Man tries to have a Girl for a Friend, he ends up Drunk and kissing his dog.
Not a true quote, but a funny one!
Peace!
2007-05-21 09:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the event that they don't seem to be they could desire to easily say hi and then bye. no longer a number of of a convo. yet whilst they do they kinda start up conversations and snort alot. each and every from time to time they attempt to act cooler then they r to electrify you.
2016-10-31 00:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by heaney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's acting like a child. Tell him to stop or you aren't going to let him into your personal life. You don't have to tell him about the guys you like but you trust him so you do. Stop being childish... tell him to get over it or get out of your life.
2007-05-21 09:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by NoClue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋