Okay, my ex and I have been broken up for about a year now. We've still kept in touch and are friends. A few days ago, he came to me and asked if it would be alright if he asked one of my friends out. I'm not in love with him anymore or anything, but I don't want him seeing her. Does that make me a *****?
2007-05-21 09:29:59 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it makes you a little bit jealous, jmo.
There is a reason why you two broke up in the first place, just remember that, and be happy for your friend, show her support, guys come and go, but friends are forever!!!!
2007-05-21 09:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I dont think this makes you a *****. I have always gone by the rule that you dont date/sleep with people your friends have dated, even if they give you the ok! This worked nicely for us as friends, and noone ever dated someones ex or former fling. So no your not a *****, and I would chat w/ your friend about possibly have the same "policy"
2007-05-21 09:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by DMGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, but it makes you a teeny bit selfish. I mean, if you don't have feelings for him, what's the problem? It's been over a year, why deny two people what might be happiness. Odds are, it won't work and you don't even know if your friend will say yes. But what investment do you have that stops you from being okay with it? Are you really over him?
2007-05-21 09:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - but you have to think how nice and big of a guy he is to seek your approval. That is really cool and then you need to think about why you don't want him seeing her. Is it because you are not ready to see him with someone else or some other reason. It does not make you a ***** but you need to question your motives on this one. He seems to be going about this the right way.
2007-05-21 09:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't. I mean its just alittle uncomfortable to see someone you used to date with a friend (believe me I've been there!) so if he asked you as a friend and you both have that friendship he shouldn't want to hurt you again with this. I mean that is kinda crossing the line and making things more drawn out and painful than they have to be.
Good Luck.
2007-05-21 09:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by ☆ Heavenly ☆ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. Unless your motive is based upon the fact that he will not be good for your friend. If you are objecting from a protective stand point, OK, if it is from a jealous standpoint. You hit the nail on the head with your last sentence.
2007-05-21 09:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by progunr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you are insecure, you maybe cant get anyone esle, its well known fact that pretty slim secure, confident girls always are open minded, they dnt care what their ex does, cuz they know they can get any guy they want, cuz they soo pretty, whereas u it looks like ur deep down not happy within urself, u dnt want ur freind to have what u had with ur ex, so ur feeling jeleous, but that just makes u weak & gullable, maybe u aint that attractive and have difficualty finding fit men, i dunno, but guys r guys , they can always find another girl easily, they will always get attracted to other girls all the time, thats just human nature, PEACE".
2007-05-21 09:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-05-21 09:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it just makes you jealous. that is natural... espcially if you were in a long relationship with him and/or you had sex with him... no body wants to know that someone else is better or that the other person has moved on, its a matter of pride. so long as you dont go crazy or out of your way to keep them apart you are not a *****. just someone who is having normal feelings.
2007-05-21 09:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by kcnash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't make you a *****, and it's perfectly ok to let him know that would be weird for you. That's why he asked, right?
2007-05-21 09:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋