My mother asked me to dinner. My husband wants to go too. It's my birthday so I know she wouldn't mine. We have 3 kids so if he goes we all go. I hate to ask my mother to pay for me, my 3 kids, and husband. I would tell my husband to pay but we just spent like $1000 at disney world this past weekend and are now broke. I don't know what I should do.
2007-05-21 08:25:58 · 29 answers · asked by sugarplum 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If your mother asked YOU to dinner for YOUR birthday, she should only pay for YOUR meal. If the rest of your fam wants to tag along, and she doesn't mind, you should at least offer to pay for your kids and husband.
2007-05-21 08:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by My Pits A Lover Not A Fighter 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Did your mom ask you to dinner, or the whole fam? Have you considered that maybe your mother would like to treat and have dinner with her daughter one on one? I don't know your relationship. Maybe she hasn't been able to have a private word with you in a long time.
If your husband has trouble with you and your mother having dinner together, well, that's weird. Has he ever been in charge of all three kids at once?
Your family just had Disney together. If it is that big of an issue, just have a mother-daughter birthday dinner. After all, including your whole family when they weren't invited (and thereby multiplying the price of her 'gift' by at least three) without her consent, is really very rude, even to your mother. Heck, if you take her for granted that much (maybe you do, maybe you don't) she would probably like nothing better than to talk, mother and daughter, without having to talk through/around your husband and all three kids.
I'm not saying that this is you, but attaching your husband and kids to you, each time you go anywhere with anyone, and thus obligating anyone who wants to treat you to treat your entire family is pretty self-centered. Yes, your household family should be your life, but maybe mom would like to to see you in clothes that don't smell like pampers? It's gonna be, what... four hours, tops? Everyone, your husband included, should be able to survive that long.
2007-05-21 17:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by eine kleine nukedmusik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i have to say u and ur husband dont know how to deal with ur own finance and money to be now broke!!
And why would someone spend $1000 at a Disney world if they have lil money?i dont get u ppl!!
And u have 3 kids,so i suggest u get ur head straight up!
Cancell the dinner and invite ur mom over to ur place and cook a nice meal,im sure she wouldnt mind!
2007-05-21 16:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Pinky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mother has something to tell you. Did she invite your husband too? If not, then I think maybe you should just go with your mom. Maybe you can change it into a lunch or brunch so it's not so expensive. If you hubby feels he needs to go, then leave the kids at home and have him pay his share. Sometimes moms just want mother-daughter time with their girls. You're making too much out of the invitation.
2007-05-21 17:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by eva2devine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was always taught that if you do not have the money to pay for the dinner, don't go.
She's your mother, she will understand if you tell her what's up, then she will offer to pay for the whole family or accept your declination.
Maybe the two of you can for lunch one day when everyone is at school/work.
Happy Birthday.
2007-05-21 15:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by silly_me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right to make your mom pay when she just invited you. Tell your husband that your mom wanted to take you out for a mother-daughter dinner and he's not invited and neither are the kids.
End of story.
2007-05-21 15:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mom invites you and didn't expect the whole kit and caboodle it's not fair of you to lay another four people on her. She asked you and not them. So leave the hubby and kids at home to look at photos from the Disney trip and let your Mom take you out for a mom & daughter treat.
2007-05-21 21:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother to postpone going to dinner for a while.
Or just you go and leave husband and kids at home.
2007-05-21 15:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are writing about your family, and you have these issues? The $1,000.00 is not a valid issue in no way or concern!
What you are stepping on can never be fixed with a million dollars! This is the wrong time to count pennies!
You and your husband are one, you have two choices, you/your husband cover your family cost or a baby sitter.
Try Ethics, Virtue, Integrity, Personal Responsibility, moral values.
2007-05-21 16:07:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should go to lunch with your mom so you won't have to worry about bringing everyone. You can have a dinner later and have everyone pay there own way. You and your husband pay for your family and your mom pay for herself.
2007-05-21 15:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by Going Crazy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋