Ok so I have been dating this guy for over a month now, and we click on SOO many levels it's incredible. I asked him the other day if he was seeing anyone else besides me, because we are still in that "dating" phase, where it's still ok to see other people if we wanted to. He said no he wasn't and that he wasn't looking either. I want to ask him if he wants to make our relationship exclusive but I don't know if that will scare him being we have only been dating a month. I know to some that may seem like a long time, but it really isnt. We are still getting to know eachother and whatnot. What do you guys think?
2007-05-21 08:02:40 · 7 answers · asked by nuniestar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being he said he isn't looking at the moment, to me that means he is just trying to concentrate on me...I don't know...
2007-05-21 08:03:35 · update #1
I can see where you are kind of confused on this topic because you enjoy what you already share but based on his comments and what you would like to eventually come from this, it is hard not to wonder whether or not his comment means that he is feeling the same vibes as you in wanting to take it to the next level or that it might be too soon to jump the gun. However, I would like to offer this perspective on account of it being what I would do if I were in your shoes. I think that first you need to evaluate the situation based on your wants and needs. Are you really satisfied with this going on as just you two dating? (Not on the basis of keeping him in your life and around but on account of how you genuinely feel with current circumstances and the future). Do you think that things are moving at a good pace (not too slow or too fast)? Do you think things will change between you two if you bring it up? and lastly, most people after a month are considering taking it to the next level. I don't think it's too soon to ask something like that considering that it appears that is what you want out of this relationship with him and also because of his comment that he is not seeing anyone else. I think it would be alright to bring it up to him so long as you are ok with whatever he says. I think that if he is really into you, he will say yes and that if he doesn't it might be a sign that 'he's just not that into you' (which I highly doubt is possible). I mean my reasoning for that is because I think that someone who has went out with you a bunch already has to have some idea whether or not he feels that you two are compatible and have a future together. However, I think that if this is something that you really want out of this, go ahead and take the risk and if you are cool with just waiting it out a bit, then do so. In the end though, it really all depends on what you really want out of the relationship and seeing if he is ready and/or willing to give that to you. Good luck and take care:)
2007-05-21 08:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all have only been dating for a month. Sweetie don't ever rush a relationship because any relationship that is rushed in to will not last in the long run. Because just when you think you know someone you really don't. But don't let me stop you, just think this over a little more before making any EXCLUSIVE titles....
2007-05-21 15:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nuniestar - I know you want to make your relationship exclusive, but if YOU ask him (after only a month) you will definitely scare him off. Just wait and let him be the one to suggest it.
The truth, if you are too eager he will lose respect for you. Let him pursue you and win you over.
2007-05-21 15:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him! its been a month. how regularly are you dating each other? if its pretty regular i would say talk to him about it to clarify what he means by "not looking"
2007-05-21 15:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has already told you he is not interested in seeing other ladies so dont add labels enjoy what you have and see where it leads
2007-05-21 15:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him and don't be afraid if he needs more time, but it sounds like its going well
good luck
2007-05-21 15:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by kc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seal the deal...if ya know what i mean
2007-05-21 15:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋