Saturday was my best friends 21st b-day party.. Everyone got so drunk.. Well we invited some friends from work to come hang out.. It was alot of fun.. Well I drank a lil to much to the point where i started making out with my co-worker Jerry. Ive known this guy for a year now and we've always been very good friends. Well one thing led to another and we had sex.. I cant believe it happened.. I talked to him today and we acted like nothing happened.. do i keep acting that way or do i have to tell him that us getting together shouldnt of happened? I dont have feelings for him at all in that sort of way...
2007-05-21 07:40:04 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
most people don't realize that part of responsible drinking is not getting drunk, and this is precisely why!
i can't say it's inherently bad to have sex with a co-worker because it could be a good thing...especially if it was good sex! lol ...but seeing as you stated that you don't have those sort of feelings for him...it probably was.
on the upside, he didn't go all spastic on you and isn't acting like you're an item. if you're okay with not talking about it ever again, then don't bring it up unless he brings it up and just move on. if you feel the need to talk about it, tell him that it was a one time thing and that's it and that you think it would be better if you both forgot about the whole thing or whatever.
good luck and next time don't drink so much.
2007-05-21 07:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by mirleta_liz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle it, act like nothing ever happened. But these things have a way of always rising to the surface. Eventually at some point something will happen and you will feel awkward and/or uncomfortable. And to answer your original question yeah it is bad, because why give yourself the extra worry and trouble, it is not worth it, most times.
If it becomes an issue, talk to him and stress that you just want to keep it professional.
2007-05-21 07:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to tell you the truth i think you should talk to him cause if you just keep on acting like nothing happened then you will get to a point where you will give up and explode and break down and you will never feel the same way at work you will always feel uncomfortable so i do think you should tell him that it shouldn't have happened and that you don't have feelings for him and it was just a big mistake that's all BUT if you don't talk to him about it he mit just feel that you have feelings for him and if you keep acting like nothing happened your life won't be the same at work believe me. So just talk to him. GOOD LUCK HUN.
2007-05-21 07:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have sex with a co-worker but it did happen with a good friend for the same reason, we were drunk. I honestly dint have those feelings for her, but things happen. I never thought that she would get ideas after that.. What u need to do is talk to him see how he feels about the situation(only if u think its bad!) and try not to hurt him people ca BE REALLY SENSITIVE about this kind of things.
If you really value his friendship as FRIENDS dont let alcohol ruin that
2007-05-21 07:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you knew what you were doing b/c you remembered having sex with him, ****, if he's acting like nothing happened then you play right along with his ***! lol, you don't need to tell him that what happened the other night didn't mean anything b/c he obviously feels the exact same way seeming as though he hasn't said anything... and look on the bright side, @ least you had sex with a MALE!!! lol, hope you used protection, but i know you did...
~ Smooches ~
2007-05-21 07:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Zee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes! That's a sticky situation - you need to consider how it may or may not affect your situation at work. If you are both mature enough to let it go and chalk it up as a mistake and not let it interfere with your work, then just let it go. If it becomes an issue, you may need to talk about it.
Of course, the easiest course of action is to keep things like that from happening in the first place. Count yourself lucky that he was someone you knew and not some stranger taking advantage of you!
2007-05-21 07:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Daizee Grrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Working together and have sex is a very tough situation.if you talk with him about that,you need to be very careful,specially at the workplace.Why?some times everybody will start to gossipping about you and him.If you do not have feelings for him,is better to keeping in that way (like nothing happened).But of course,you can talk with him,but be very careful,do not let the gossipping start at the workplace.Good luck,and good question.
2007-05-21 07:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If theres no feelings involved, and you guys acted like nothing happened, then leave it as that. Dont do it agian though. co-worker relationships happens a lot, but terminating either you or the other or both happens a lot also.
If I were you, just treat it like a day at disney land. you went, you saw, you rode, then went home.
2007-05-21 07:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope leace it be say nothing he played it off so should you put the bad or regret feelings aside and move on don't even show it,besides you said you have no such feelings for or even think of him that way so don't bother its just another day at least you got some.
2007-05-21 07:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by tino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already had the first awkward meeting, now is when you can invite him out for coffee and say "Look, that was just too weird, I don't want it to make the office a hard place for us to work. Can we just get past it?"
2007-05-21 07:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋