i stay in chicago and have a b-f in new mexico, we were going great first few weeks, than afterward things started slacking off, he started makin weird excuses, like he went on business trip for 3 days, i tried calling him at that time but he said, he forgot his phone, at home, whom goes on a 3 day business trip and leave there means of communication at home? and another time he told me his aunt died, andi tried for two weeks to call him to try cheer him up, he said he was greif stricken, thats why he did not call me for two weeks are send any texted messages, then other weird things is we can be talkin on cell and all of a sudden he say can i call u back i say ok , then i dont hear from him for 2 days. last weird thing he told me he wont be able to call me for 3 days becuz he drop his cell phone in the ocean at beach lol and he have to wait three days for replacement thats totally lie cuz i broke my phone and went straight to cell phone store and replace it.
2007-05-21 07:25:25 · 11 answers · asked by blk_female_x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what should i do give him up ,kick him to the curve, pl give some advice any thing helpful, are should i give another chance?.
2007-05-21 07:26:41 · update #1
Set him free and if he comes back to you, then keep your wall. The bad part of long distance relationships is the lack of trust and comunication. Most of these relationships fade away.
Sounds like this guy is afraid to tell you how he really feels. Take it from me, don't confront him, just stop calling him. Emailing him. That includes instant messenger. Just allow him to pursue you. That's what you want of course.
When someone does this to you in the future... its time to call a friend and go out. Try and put them on the back burner. And if he never contacts you... then it was never meant to be.
2007-05-21 07:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by bub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships are extremely hard to maintain. Great communication skills are required and on both sides. One other thing to keep in my is that most people who lie tend to elaborate on the lie to make it more believable. For instance instead of my phone broke. I dropped it in the ocean and tried to dry it out with a hair dryer but now it only works if I stand upside down in a phone booth.
Move On. Good luck
2007-05-21 07:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really sounds like he has someone else or he is married. You never mentioned how you all met, but it really sounds like he he is dealing with someone else in New Mexico. If the only time you can talk to him is when he is at work or late at night, or at weird times, he is definitely with someone else.
If nothing else I would take it slow with this man. But if it were me, I would not keep dealing with stupid excuses that don't make sense. God gave women intuition about these things. If you listen carefully to it, you would see that it is time to leave this person alone.
2007-05-21 07:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by msyrc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The trick to LDR's is the willingness to prove your feelings. Its hard to feel like an active part of someone's life from such a distance. I'm in one now and it's not easy at all, her living in louisiana, me in NJ. The way that i've tried to make it easier is to bridge the gap as often as I can. I've driven to see her for a weekend, just cuz i wanted to. Its dangerous and scary to do, but its worth it to see if what you're getting emotionally involved in is for real or just looks good on paper.
2007-05-21 07:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mavrick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do not say a word.
Completely stop communicating with him and move on with ur life, he will come back to ask what happened some day, then kick him
2007-05-21 07:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Rita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start hearing the stories, it's time for him to go. Single life is less stressful.
And you know he's lying , so the real question is why can't you let him go?
2007-05-21 07:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know how old either of you are but it sounds to me like he's married. I say dump him and move on to someone who lives closer.
2007-05-21 07:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Sarah K ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So when you do get to talk to him do say anything about him "avoiding" you to him. I think this might be his way of getting you to break up with him because he is scared to do it. He may not want to hurt you. I think I would dump him.
2007-05-21 07:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by miss_tiger2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry i think he has given up before it started ---- yes kick him to the kerb and move on ---- best wishes
2007-05-21 07:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb
2007-05-21 07:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋