I am in my 40s. My much younger sister is very carrying, tender, and supportive when we are face to face. When we are apart (we live in different states) she can be very mean, degrading, and doesn't want to maintain contact. Almost like two different people. Can this be a dual personality disorder?
2007-05-21 07:21:32 · 26 answers · asked by modern_man_100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it only depend upon your opinion why are u thing like this. it can also be, because of urs misunderstanding even if she avoids u . u dont do that becoz ur are elder take time to talk with her open heartly
2007-05-21 10:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by anushuya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, doesn't sound like she has any disorder. When you both meet up, she puts on her best, most loving, caring behaviour for her big brother (after all, she doesn't see you often so she tries to be extra-nice). When you're not there, she goes back to her usual crabby self. Probably she has a lot of things going on in her life, possibly her job, or she has young children to care for, or maybe she has some problems in her marriage and because of all this she acts like a totally different person.
Give her some space, be a supportive big brother and things will work out. Find out what's happening in her life but don't question her repeatedly about it. Just let her know that you are there to listen and help if she has any problems.
BTW, I don't think you really understand dissociative identity disorder (that's what it's called, not dual personality) so don't use the term lightly.
2007-05-24 02:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you have descibed I would say no...With so little data its hard to say but it just sounds like she acts differently when she is with you and when she is away from you...Its not a disorder...Which is the true sister...Is she putting on a personality when she see's you to avoid conflict or are home influences causing her to act mean and degrading...Perhaps both have some truth.....Last, maybe she doesn't want to maintain contact on a regular basis because of the way she acts when you are apart....
2007-05-29 05:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by litfpitr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is resentful to you and cant be "mean" to your face. Think. Did you ever do anything to her? Did you ever degrade her or scoff at her or blow her off like her feelings didn't matter? Did you ever belittle her in front of others or embarrass her? There must be some reason. It is hard for some women to let things go. You just might have a few fences to mend! Ask her. Tell her you care.
2007-05-28 11:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by KELJO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are all kinds of possibilities and only a professional can assess her for mental illness. And no one can do that until she seeks out the help. She certainly has issues. If there is a history of mental illness in the family and/or if there was an unhealthy environment in the home when you were children - these would be indicators.
DID as one example is a mechanism that typically develops as a response to severe childhood trauma.
2007-05-25 15:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by scorp5543 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in my 50's and my younger sis is a lot like that too. It has broken my heart sometimes. But now I just don't confide in her any more. I realize that when we are together she acts like she loves me (and I think she really does.) Then, when she is with another siblings or her husband and kids, she is critical of me and talks about my problems and secrets.
To protect myself, I avoid contact. But when I do speak to her, I just keep the conversation on a very superficial level. I just talk about the weather, my kids and grandkids (only good things, never share any problems) and ask her about herself and her family. That seems to be the only way I can feel safe in talking to her. I just refuse to give her anything to talk about behind my back anymore.
Protect yourself, my friend. Don't hurt her, but don't allow yourself to be vulnerable to being hurt either. Life is too short to go around being hurt and disappointed by those who are supposed to love you. Your sister is not ready to be the sister you wish she would be, but you can not change her. Good luck!!
2007-05-27 23:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could also be Bi-Polar. One minute these people will be your best friend, and five minutes later, they are the total opposite. Does she ever get depressed? I have a cousin who was diagnosed bi-polar about 5 years ago. He's 49 now. It just happened overnight. He started out just about the way you describe your sister. May be worth checking into.
2007-05-27 16:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by che_rae_gra53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very touchy and requires special attention as it seems that she was neglected at some point of time. Therefore she should be treated with more love and affection and no frequently sermons. Support her activities and understand her mind and know minutely her real problem.
2007-05-24 19:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ! when u say your younger sister is caring,i come to think of you as a loving brother too.Dont let such thoughts as this come to ur mind.And when it takes time for a doctor to diagnoise people of dual personality you probably cant judge her when u two are staying away. chill out . sort it out with ur sister or just wait for things to come back inyo course .u'll be all right.BRO!!!!
2007-05-23 06:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not dual personality i think she is undergoing some problem .... so try to find out and never use terms like split personality, psychotics etc ..when u really don't know about the condition
2007-05-22 00:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Maybe some personal problem. Better talk to her personally but don't say what U suspect. N if U suspect same then also then consider psychiatrist.
2007-05-28 06:09:34 · answer #11 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋