I have been with some one for almost a year; we live together...and we are not happy...Always fighting about little things.... I want to keep him around bc he pays half of the rent...( I know thats mean) Dont get me wrong I do Love him....But I want to be with my ex-boyfriend; I want something new.... I am not a bad person just a little tired of the same everyday routine.........Both are good people..... What should I do?????????
2007-05-21 07:19:16 · 13 answers · asked by Stephanie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How is your ex something new? You've already been there!!Anyway, are you both unhappy? or is it just you? If your tired of the same day to day boring stuff, then change it! Make it exciting for you and him. You also have to work out which way you love this guy. Is it as a friend, a brother or a lover? Only you can make your life happy and fullfilling, so if your not happy do somthing about it.
good luck
2007-05-21 07:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person at ALL. Sometimes things just don't work out and you find that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence since you want your ex-boyfriend back.
This will be so hard but sit down with him and have a conversation that you don't feel things are working out between both of you. See what he has to say. Voice the things that you are not happy about. Allow him to voice what he is not happy about.
Remember you also either were left or left your ex. Try to remember not just the good times but the reasons for your breakup. Sometimes we glaze over the bad times when time has passed and only remember the good things about our ex's and it isn't reality.
Just think about your future.
2007-05-21 14:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by rusweetlikeme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know what to do. One of you has to move out. If you cannot afford a place of your own check with your other friends and see if they are looking for a roommate, even parttime until you can afford your own place. I also do not recommend getting back with your ex right away. Give yourself some time. Bouncing from one relationship to the next is not healthy. I'm not saying don't see him at all, just don't be exclusive for a time. You don't say how old you are, but everyone should take time between relationships, no matter how positive you are that you are made for each other.
2007-05-21 14:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Gwen D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I can about guarantee I won't be getting 10 points for the best answer, but I believe you should not live with someone of the opposite sex unless you are married...now, I am married, and have never lived with someone before marriage, and i will be the first to say that it's difficult to get along with someone else of the opposite sex in the same house, however, thats what marriage is all about...working together and compromise, even though I'm not great at it i still try. I really think that if you are in the relationship to have someone to pay rent, you need to look around for another girl to live with you and help share the bills...that's my vote...sorry if you don't like it.
2007-05-21 14:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop using the first guy for money, decide which guy you would REALLY rather be with, and choose based on your feelings for them rather than what's convenient.
---keep in mind that once you're back with the old bf for a while, THAT will become routine, so don't get back together with him just to try something "new" (which seems odd since you've dated already). honestly, it kind of sounds like you need to be single for a while. you'll have some time to get your life together on your own, have the freedom to have whatever routine you want, and figure out what you really want in a guy/relationship.
2007-05-21 14:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow the hell up!! Your a selfish asss user and you can take this statement anyway you want. Learn to be an independent woman so you dont feel 'trapped' to be with someone you dont want to be with. Get a better job or whatever to take care of your own self. An ex boyfriend is not something new...oh hell...your an idiot
2007-05-21 14:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't have both. You're going to have to make a choice. Maybe you could be honest with your boyfriend now and tell him how you feel. Tell him you would like him to stay just as a room mate. Of course, he may get angry and leave you.
What to do? Money? or Love?
2007-05-21 14:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should reevaluate what you really want out of life and be sure that this isn't a spur of the moment kind of thing. You need to be fair to everyone involved. Personally, I think you need to be on your own for awhile, not jumping from one relationship to another.
2007-05-21 14:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by HuntersMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry the everyday routine will always crop up ---- if you are having problems and want the relationship to continue then you need to work on it and a year is not long at all ----- best wishes
2007-05-21 14:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart, but don't string no one along just bcuz they pay half of the rent.
2007-05-21 15:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by 2sexy 2cute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋