so I just asked a question about my boyfriend and strip clubs ect. and I have to say that the reason I dont want him going is because I dont want him getting turned on by other girls naked bodies. it bothers the hell outta me because I love him so much and it makes me feel like I'm not doing something correctly i mean should I be like those girls? should I dress like them for him? is that what he wants? He says he just goes to have fun and watch his friends be drunk and stupid. But I just cannot get over the fact that hes getting horny by watching other girls. but does that mean he wants those girls?
p.s. i know I'm hott if not hotter than most strippers but I dont put myself out there and he says they all probably have AIDS and are gross.
2007-05-21 07:15:18 · 28 answers · asked by whineyviney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Where the painters who painted beautiful woman forms doing something wrong? OK, lame argument.
Yeah I know what you're saying. I think I would be a little jealous if my gf went out to watch male strippers on a regular basis. A night out with the girls every now and then wouldn't be a bad thing.
2007-05-21 07:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
think of it this way. Strip clubs have rules that you can't touch the girls, you can barely talk to them and have big guys who make sure this stuff doesn't happen. Meanwhile going to a dance club there are no rules...you can touch...talk...grope...whatever. So, my whole point is that no matter what a person is going to get turned on. If it is at a strip club, or a regular bar or anything. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you and doesn't care about you. He just wants to hang out with the guys and have a good time. So, it will be okay and this is absolutely nothing to lose sleep over.
2007-05-21 14:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by nice_guyminnesota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys say this same thing, but they do get some sort of entertainment from it or why would they go. I would maybe tell him that you will give him the strip club treatment in the privacy of your own bedroom if he will stop going. You could even have fun with it, gets some outfits and dance to your favorite song for him, rub on him and just act like he is irresistible tell him you will trade he stops going and you will do the entertaining. If he don't go for it maybe find someone else who will, you don't need to feel like you are not giving him something that a stripper can, you have a lot more to offer him.
2007-05-21 14:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by zyann0102 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a regular thing, I can understand you being a little jealous. That's normal. If it's something he does a couple times a year, just to get together with they guys and hang out, then I wouldn't worry about it too much. Yeah, he's getting excited watching these girls, but guy's get excited if the wind is blowing the right direction. I probably go once a year, and my wife knows I'm not trying to go home with any of the strippers. She just tells me to be respectful of her and I am. Maybe you should go with him to the club and check it out. You guys might have fun there together.
2007-05-21 14:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by fonzarelli_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him once and a while. Don't go to check him though. Go because you are curious about the environment.Be open with him and honest. Also accept it that he wants to do this as part of his personal space with his friends. Trust me there are no strippers who will sleep with a guy for free if they are that type, of course. Your husband is not wanting to be with them, but he anjoys watching them and not so much his friends, although I use to laugh at how my firneds would throw so much money at these women, especially after having drinks with them. If he wanted to do something with them, he would have never let you know he was going there. Go with him,ask him first though. I would suggest that you also learn a dance or two, but don't do it because you think it will keep him home. Do it to make him happy and bring something different to your relationship and stimulate the bedroom, even if you're not having problems there.Good luck. I wish my wife gave a shoot if I went to a strip bar. If she arrived home and caught me with another woman, I think she would just stay downstairs and watch Tv until we were done. By the way, some cool strip anthems; The Jack by AC/DC...Lit'l dev'l by The Cult...Home Sweet Home & Lay Your Body Down by Motley Crue...You can leave your hat on by Joe Cocker...Me and you by Cassie (I love this one).You can search any of these on youtube to listen for yourself.Google sexy dance wear and see what you find. Good luck
2007-05-21 14:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by vince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual, WE LOOK! that is why the porn industry is so big! As for strip clubs most men don't want to have sex with the stripper but they do get turned on by the naked female body! SO, you can let him go and look but tell him to come home fast because you want to do him! Or you can bug him and nag him and tell him not to go or to choose you over the strip club and he will resent you!
2007-05-21 14:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason to be insecure. Men naturally react more to visual stimulation than women. All you are doing by getting upset that he goes to strip clubs are coming across to him as insecure and possessive.
Guys like to look at naked bodies...porn, nude magazines, strippers, etc. It has NOTHING to do with their girlfriend/wife not being hot enough or not being satisfying in bed, or any desire to be with the women they in the pics/movies/club sexually.
Relax and let him have his fun with his buddies...he'll appreciate you a lot more as a kewl and understanding girlfriend, than if every time he goes out to the club you two get into a row about it.
2007-05-21 14:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u ARE hotter than the girls at the strip club, so when he finishes playing w/ the boys, and maybe IS a little turned on, be waiting at the door in your dancing shoes ( JUST the shoes) and the thought of your naked body will be the last thing on his mind when he goes to sleep.... quit worrying about what he is thinking the rest of the night....he probably won't remember anyway when he sees those "shoes"!
HAVE FUN!!!!! =P
2007-05-21 14:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by twhite 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with you.
No, you shouldn't worry about him looking at those other girls.
The fact that he (and most other heterosexual men) get turned on by skanky half naked women waving "it" in their faces has absolutely nothing to do with how much he loves you or finds you sexually attractive.
The bottom line is that getting men to stop looking at other women is kind of like trying to get a dog to quit licking his balls. It is simply a hard wired part of our makeup. Be secure in the knowledge that you are the one he chooses to come home to in the evening and be happy in the knowledge that you are the one to ultimately benefit from any excess "excitement" he might have built up at the club.
2007-05-21 14:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man likes to look at women and if there is a place where they take their clothes off of course he wants to go. Give him a reason to not go there like dress really hot for him and tell him you are going out. When he asks you to put some clothes on tell him I thought you wanted me to dress this way because these are the only woman that get your attention.
2007-05-21 14:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by dandls_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋