Perhaps R&S is the wrong place to ask but the B/F uses his "beliefs" as an excuse, i feel....Question: In this day and age, is it inappropriate (not necessarily right or wrong) for my boyfriend to stay over (literally JUST sleeping)? Times have changed and it feel it is old-fashion "rule"....Is there anything in the bible that says it is morally wrong...or inappropriate???
2007-05-21 06:52:00 · 15 answers · asked by bellesnail 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It sounds as if you don' have full trust in his love for you. That he's hidding something and using "Faith" as something "Evil". Explore this gut feeling you have because some people do use religion as a veil to cover their sins. Or it may be that you need to understand the Church's view of faith more to align with him.
As Christains we shouldn't be seeking how much we can "get away with" before being guilty of dong something wrong. If this is our perspective, we'll be unable to see the Church's teachings as the good news that it is. Instead, we'll view it with suspicion. We'll see it as an arbitrary moral code that bans the things we really want to do. We'll see Church teaching as a burden imposed from outside that's difficult, if not impossible, to live up to.
The person whose heart has been transformed by Christ is not seeking to "get away" with anything. Such a person is instead always seeking what it means to follow Christ as the model of love and self-giving. He doesn't see the Church's teaching as an imposition, but recognizes it for what it is - the truth about love that God has written in our very being.
Instead of looking at relationships as "Get away with" ... look at standards as "never fall below" if one is seeking true love, true joy, true fulfillment. In that light, we can fulfill these steps to love.
Should your B/F have the standard that he loves you so much that he will never disgrace you by tempting you with a sleep-over then it should be honored if you love him. Any pressure you give is similar to rapping him (mentally). Again in today's society with fallen sexuality every where you may want to explore more. Isn't exploring & opening the relationship the path to getting love that is free, total, & faithful. Isn't that what you want???
2007-05-21 07:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think U don't know what U have there lil' lady! A REAL MAN, is someone with Integrity! Now, question is where is Urs??? U are functioning with "Personal Love" towards him which will never work out! Would U have just any man do a "Sleep Over" at Ur house??? If U have to ask this question, Ur not ready for a Relationship. I truly hope U don't think U can "Change" this guy into what U want, do U??? Times have changed, yes, but not mans or womans Sin nature! U mention his beliefs, but not Urs??? Why??? It sounds to me that U would be "Un-equally Yoked" as Scripture says & that leads to fast breakups! Marriage is a "Problem Creating Device" that even true Believers know is hard to cope with & Impossible without both parties being on the same page!!! John
2007-05-21 08:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by moosemose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says to "Avoid the appearance of evil". Most people who would see this happening would assume that sex is taking place. Sex outside of marriage is sin, thus, you are presenting the appearance of sin.
Plus, it's just not too smart if you are trying to not have sex. Being alone in a house is just simply not a good idea. I have maintained that rule in my own life after leaving my parent's home, because I believe it to be wisdom. I don't even allow myself to be alone in a house with a guy who is just a friend.
If someone has set this standard in his own life, you should respect that. We each know ourselves, and we should know where our boundaries are. I admire a guy who would set those standards for himself. It shows good character.
2007-05-21 06:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It just leads to temptation. Maybe not the first time but then it gets easier to "justify" him sleeping over. Look at what you said, "In this day and age...." It's funny society determines it's OK today but society thought it wasn't OK yesterday. The Bible never changes its mind.
2007-05-21 06:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rick 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you get into the OT is does say something about the proper image or the image of impropriety. It means that some one else might not like what you are doing and you should be more concerned about the image they have of you than what you think of yourself.
2007-05-21 07:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that something is wrong then trust yourself. He might say just sleeping but temptation gets in the way and then everybody in the church will find out so don't let it happen! Listen to that little voice that is telling you NO!
2007-05-21 07:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whether something is right or wrong isn't a matter of whatever is popular or convenient, whatever culture. That's how morality gets changed.
I think it is highly suspect that he should need to sleep over.
Sounds fishy.
2007-05-21 06:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
.Sex is like crime in that it requires opportunity , motive and means for it to occur. Your B/F sleeping over provides all three .Sooner or later it's gonna happen, y. If your BF thinks it's not then he's not being honest with himself or you and that IS morally wrong or incredibly naive.
2007-05-21 07:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure theres a passage in the bible that can be *interpreted* as such, but maybe he's just referring to his personal beliefs.
2007-05-21 06:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by KB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
flee the very apperance of evil,the boy-friend sleeping over doesn't look good,even if it's only sleeping.
2007-05-21 06:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by parkituse j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋