Should I do this?

Question

So basically I met this girl at a wedding. Ended up getting her number. Last night she txt messaged me and told me that she was sorry, she was trying to find the middle ground between being a bit** and leading me on. She said she was seeing someone, albeit not a real serious thing, but she was actually seeing someone.

So my question is, should I tell her that if things don't work out with him, that I would still really like to get to know her? Or should I just let it go?

Be harsh, be honest. I'm sick of being lead on by girls, I don't need to be lead on by people trying to be nice in helping me, haha.

Thanks!

Answer 1

First of all, I would tell her that it was a really immature thing to do. That if she was seeing someone she should have flat out told you that, but at the same time, there must have been a connection on some level for that to not be the first thing she told you. I would tell her that you don't mind being friends, and if she wants to talk or hang out great, if not, that's OK, too. That way IF things go sour with her man she still is in touch with you. BUT, my thing is- if she does that to the guy she's with now, wouldn't she do it to you, if you were with her?

Answer 2

Well, I'm going to be very honest with you. I think I know why you are being led on by girls. You are too eager.

Tell this "broad" you met . . . and that is what she is, that you are into mature women . . . and that means rather than giving you her phone number a mature woman would have simply told you she was going with someone and you would have understood. Under no circumstances give the lame-as-s "if it doesn't work, I'd like to . . . " line. That gives her the idea she's "all that". Which she isn't.

You are a worthwhile human being and deserve honesty. If some girl can't tell you up front that she's seeing someone else and gives you her phone number instead, she's leading you on. Don't play her game. If you are not into game-players and show you are self-confident, you will meet someone as worthwhile and honest as you.

Answer 3

Think about it from this perspective:

You have a girlfriend and she gives someone her number just being nice. And she tells the guy she has a boyfriend so she's not interested in him at the time. How would you feel if some guy said that if it doesn't work out with you and her he'd like a chance?

There's your answer.

Answer 4

You say you are sick of being lead on, but that's exactly what she's doing to you now. She is toying with you. Let her go and if she comes back looking for you, don't be there. And don't play games with her because that's what she will always do if you give in....

Answer 5

She's being a woman and telling you the truth. Let her go. Don't wait in the wings for something to happen. Plus, I think it was a nice way of telling you that she's not really interested anymore!

Answer 6

I think you should go with your gut feeling..meaning, if you think it would work out between you two if her and her boyfriend broke up, then tell her you'll still be interested. If it was meant to be then it was meant to be, there's no harm in trying.

Answer 7

Dude move on. Don't give her the opportunity to drag your heart through the mud. If she really did like you and wanted to date you then she would have never sent that text message to you.

Answer 8

Tell her you were just trying to get laid that night, that way you have the upper hand and it will seem like you got one up on her instead of her getting one up on you.

Answer 9

Let her go cos she is not good 4 u. U will someone who is not datin anyone n she will be urs.

Answer 10

I would tell her to call you if things don't work out and she'd like to 'hang out'.