Why cant guys just say what they feel or what they are thinking?

Question

feelings in general. why hide it,why act like they have no emotions...if they like you why not just tell you, stop going around the bush

Answer 1

Everytime I say that, the woman flees in terror.

"You LIKE me??? EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <:O"

You tell me how I'm supposed to want to open up after that kind of experience.


EDIT: See? JOYCEE gets it! :D

Answer 2

Urtruly: Simply said; You're an idiot. If what you said was true guys wouldn't do the approaching the majority of the time. It's the women who can't handle rejection and hence why they don't approach.

Secondly guys communicate differently then women. We don't feel a need to constantly tell you how we feel, you should know based on how we are acting.

Lastly this is coming from a woman who typically when something is ACTUALLY wrong will refuse to tell her bf WHAT the problem is because "he should already know" you girls have your own problems with communication. 1) you never shut up, 2) It's like dealing with a puppy dog "good girl" pat pat, 3) What you feel one second to the next changes, you can't even keep track of it yourself.

Answer 3

I honestly think that it's because men don't like to discuss the problem or there feelings... they are wired to FIX the problem not dwell on it or how it makes them feel!

They don't like to waste there time going into detail about their feelings that just leads to a long complicated discussion which I don't think they really care to have.

If it's an issue with some guy not being strait up and telling you he likes you it could just be that he doesn't know if you feel the same way and is trying to see if you do. Why don't you just ask him if he likes you? If it's hard for you to do that it's probably the same reason he hasn't just told you he likes you, he doesn't want to be rejected.

Answer 4

Most women, if men actually DID do this, would not like what they heard most of the time. That said, there IS a happy medium out there. The key is finding the right guys with that knack. Some guys have it. Some guys don't. If the guy you have in mind doesn't appear capable of communicating, then maybe it is time to look for a new guy. They are not all like that.

Answer 5

here's the problem. we weren't trained in how to discuss things with girls/women. In fact, most of the time when we tell you the truth you laugh and think we are joking around. so we go along with it and avoid the issue because obviously we are clueless (or maybe you are but we blame ourselves).

Lets say you and a girlfriend are discussing an ex of hers. She is saying he was a pig because he wanted sex every day. You agree with her that every day is way too much. Meanwhile your b/f is listening to the conversation. He is thinking the womans ex was lucky because he was getting it every day. Then he sees that you think that is too much and feels retarded. How can he tell you that he would like it once a day after hearing your opinion on the subject. He withdraws.

Later you ask him if he would like to have sex EVERY DAY. So he lies and says NO. Truth is, he would love to have sex twice a day and five times a day on weekends.

Of course we can't talk to you.

Answer 6

Well, guy don't just shoot from the hip with women because if guys did they would get what they want. Women say they would give guys what they want but it's not actually true. Also, guys idea can get warped at time so it's better to keep it in and just be the man your woman really wants. Well, maybe that's not my true feeling either...I must have that same problem (smile)

Answer 7

THANK YOU!!!!! I feel the same way. I am having a similar issue with a gentlemen friend of mine. He refuses to admit how he feels, he just drops hints like " You know that I would do absolutely anything for you." or "hey i'm just a family man without a family". I know what he is trying to get to, but he is just to shy or stubbord to just come out and tell me. Guys are so screwed up about things like this. What is so hard about just telling a girl that they like her?

Answer 8

Women have trouble understanding that most of the time, men aren't really thinking about anything. We're just living in the moment and thinking about that particular second that we're experiencing.

Men are simple, women are complicated. Women sometimes try to complicate men so that they can understand them better. That doesn't change the fact that we're still simple creatures. We only appear complex because you wish us to be so.

Answer 9

Like my man always said "keeping his gangsta" lol Its all in their genetics. To men showing their feelings is like showing their weakness. Bottom line, they dont want people to see their weakness, same reason why some men dont cry. Men always wanna be seen as the strong ones. Some men who takes a long time to tell you they like you is because they are scared of rejection. Men fear rejection and if you know for sure that he likes you, I suggest you just go ahead and hit on him.. they like that. lol just be sure of his feelings so you won't be embarrassed.

Answer 10

I do express myself a little too much, and I am immedatly rejected by most girls, thats why men dont like to express themselves, I find myself acting a little over obsessive. So to answer your question, I dont know why. I show my emotion and am considered crazy. so I cant help you answer that question.

Answer 11

because nobody likes rejection, specially if they really care about someone...they want to make sure they are ready for it, and for that they have to see what you are all about....besides, men are never going to tell everything they are thinking or feeling... once you get to know them, you will be able to figure out on your own...
For men, telling their feelings, is like spilling their weaknesses and they don't like to seem weak people.