A friend asked me what kind of chocolates I like and I said I still love the ones I used to eat as a child - mars bars, musketeers, milky way etc, and these are the chocolates I buy when I visit the US. ( I am currently living in Argentina). She said oh, I only buy those for my maid. I was left with nothing to say. What would you have said? Any ideas?
2007-05-21 06:21:04 · 14 answers · asked by insp.clouseau 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You should have asked her the kind she likes. If she tells you, you tell her those are the ones you buy for your dogs. Whether you have a dog or not. That way, she'll learn her lesson first hand.
2007-05-21 06:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Bantree 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"I'm not going to clean your house but next time you are buying for your maid, send some my way too."
"My maid prefers Knipschildt chocolates. They are among the most expensive in the world but my house looks fabulous and she's worth it. I still prefer the old fashioned comfort food candy bars."
I prefer to take the high road on insults but I do remember them and consider how good a friend the person actually is. Don't let it bother you. It's not worth stressing over someone else's pettiness.
2007-05-21 13:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mistress Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insp.clouseau - are you sure it was a put down? Your friend may not have meant to put you down.
How you hear what someone says is determined by your interpretations, and your interpretations flow from your past. This is very important to know, especially if you find that you overreact to what others say or habitually get your feelings hurt. . . . Remember, what someone said is not necessarily what you heard, and what you heard is not necessarily what they meant.
If she really is a friend, maybe you should just give her the benefit of the doubt.
2007-05-21 13:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by dragonsong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that my friends in the United Kingdom don't care much for chocolate made in the United States. There is a difference in taste and texture.
However, there is no reason to be snobby about it. Really, her comment is much more of a reflection of her rudeness than your taste. I'd ignore it, but be sure to bring back a Hershey's bar for her made next time you visit the U.S.
2007-05-21 13:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have said:
"i hope she enjoys them as much as i do"
or
"wow we must like the same chocolate bars"
or
"how did you find out she likes them?"
or
"you buy candy for your maid? I've never done that!"
it might be a language issue because i wouldn't view those candy bars as "chocolates" per se. She probably meant the kind that come individually wrapped, lady godiva, russel stover, ferror rocher truffles etc.
2007-05-21 13:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sufi 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What a snob! And she's your friend?
If a friend of mine had said that I'm afraid she wouldn't be my friend for very much longer, sounds like the maid would be a better friend.
2007-05-21 13:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your maid has good taste?
That was a bit of a b*tchy thing for your friend to say
2007-05-21 13:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Avoya 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her and realize she may not be the friend you have thought she was. Accept her for what she is and also find someone with better values to accept as a friend.
2007-05-21 13:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just brush it off.
She said it to make herself feel above you. People like this will always try to put others down to bring themselves up.
2007-05-21 14:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by gopher646 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't spend my time worrying about it. There are so many serious issues in the world. You're a little sensitive.
2007-05-21 13:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ann S 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋