A couple of my friends have dated black guys & said the sex is either the best they had or the worst becuz it hurt too much (cuz they were bigger down there than any other guy they'd been with). One of my friends is married to a black guy & he's a great guy . I've been asked out by some black guys but I always say no. I'm just not attracted to any black guy at all. I think there are some good looking black guys, but I just can't see myself actually doing stuff with them like kissing or especially have sex with one. My friends tell me I don't know what I'm missing & when they talk about their experiences with black guys I'm totally left out of the conversation since I've never been with a black guy in that way. Kinda makes me feel like just going ahead & getting with one just so I won't be left out, but I'm just not attracted to any of the black guys that have been interested in me. I don't have any interest in knowing what it's like to be with one either. Should I go ahead & get w/ 1?
2007-05-21 05:58:42 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you're not attracted why waste your time.
2007-05-21 06:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by cynfyx3 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
If all your friends jumped off a bridge would you do the same? Just because someone else has done something you haven't and tells you its either awesome or lame doesn't mean you'll feel the same about it. If you have no attraction then if you were to "get with one" then you would be in it for the wrong reason and probably wouldn't enjoy yourself and either feel dissapointed and something even worse. No matter what you do, if you go in for the wrong reason the outcome never turns out how you want it. And besides you can have a great experience with anyone, black, white, latino, it just depends on how the other persons uses what they got and skin color does not affect that. So don't try something you don't wanna do in the first place cause you wanna be a LEADER not a FOLLOWER!!!!
2007-05-21 06:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like black guys, then don't date them. Simple as that! How can you expect to be happy when you're dating a person because "everyone else is." If your friends all jumped off a bridge because it was the best high in the world, would you do it too? I think not. Be a leader, not a follower.
BTW. Not all black men are well-endowed. I really wish that people would STOP SAYING THAT!
2007-05-21 06:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by ..... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your not attracted why are you going dont play with your heart it not a games if your friends go out it doesn't mean you have 2 go 2 if they jumped of a bridge would you? or would you be at the end catching them ya i think i would not risk any chances and live your life like it is and then you wont have anything 2 worry about.
2007-05-21 06:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Aloha Mily 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you know what you want and that is that. If you're friends are interested in African American men that is their choice not yours.
You are doing fine, you are doing what is best for you and that is the most important thing anyone could do. As far as the conversations goes you could always ask them questions and still be a part of the group, listeners are just as good as conversationalist.
2007-05-21 06:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by MYSTERY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said multiple times that you are not attracted to them so why waste both of your time dating. Sex, good or bad, can only take you so far in a relationship and cannot build a healthy bond anyway.
2007-05-21 07:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by tish_ls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to what YOU like. Black guys are no better in bed then any other men and while some may be bigger, there are plenty of white and Latino guys that can more then do the job!
2007-05-21 06:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are basing their relationships on sex, they are in for a pretty crappy future in their relationship. Usually someone that is "great in bed" has a lot of practice, and much of that practice hasn't been with you and probably won't stay only with you.
I'm white, and I haven't ever failed to bring my partner to climax. Sounds like your friends are passing along some old wives tales.
2007-05-21 06:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by zombiehive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a daughter and loved her with all your heart and she asked you this question, what would you say to her? Any one can be a follower. Any body can do what they're not supposed to do, that is easy; take a look at the world. Character and strength
takes courage and perseverance.
I have a young niece that was being pressured by girls in school to lose her virginity and she told them that it was easy to be like them, but impossible for them to be like her.
Be good to yourself and respect yourself.
2007-05-21 06:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Festina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go find a guy you like and are attracted to. Good answer I think so.
2007-05-21 06:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by PushSucharaX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl listen to you instinks not your goofy Friends,tell them to back off.If they told you shooting up heroin was the best would you?I have been with black men myself and they will use you same as any man no matter what color, as long as you put out,Save yourself for the Mr.Right and don't be so easily influenced as you'll have to live with it the rest of your life,not theirs.
2007-05-21 06:11:46 · answer #11 · answered by JackieG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋