My daughter (from first marriage) just got married and my brother-in-law (brides step uncle) stopped payment on the check he gave her for her wedding gift! All this because my said current husband was pissed he didn't get to walk her down the aisle (neither did her father)! My daughter's other step-uncle didn't even send a congrats card! I am currently taking care of their elderly father who is also living with us as well as took care of their mother when she was on her deathbed. Is this anyway to treat a bride or are they just as immature and I imagine? I already told the husband that no more of his "family" gatherings would be happening at our house. I'm not overreacting am I?
2007-05-21 05:05:26 · 6 answers · asked by TMU2362 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, that was very rude and tacky to stop payment on a check you gave as a gift. You have been taking care of their parents so the least they could do is to send a card or somehow acknowledge your daughters wedding. Very tacky on their part.
2007-05-21 05:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, you're dealing with some highly immature behaviour here. You have a right to think, "What's up with this!"
After that, however, you have a choice. Will you retaliate by withdrawing or withholding hospitality? Or will you exhibit depth of character by continuing to treat them with dignity even though it appears they don't deserve it. Walk through life learning to hold your head high, and you will be more pleased with yourself in the long run. They may think you're trying to make up for the slight or something similar, but you can rest easy knowing you're doing the right thing. Only if people get outright abusive should you sever the relationship.
2007-05-21 05:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by waldguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its totaly crappy of step uncle to stop payment on the check... Sounds like you have a group of selfish boys .. I feel sooo sorry for you....
They are immature and its not you imagination...... It was up to your daughter what she did.. It is her and her husband's WEDDING not anyone elses. They can do anything they felt comforatable doing.....
Just Love her and ignore them.... Maybe hubby doesnt get any loven for a lil while.......
GOOD LUCK
2007-05-21 06:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by jamz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not you're not overreacting, ungratful bastards is what I would say. He's making the bride suffer because his little ego was shattered? That's disgusting and cruel.
2007-05-21 05:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by lil'bit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower yourself down to their level....they are acting badly. But I think it is important for families to get together. Rise above all of this and continue what you have been doing.
2007-05-21 05:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by mago 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would crap a brick if someone had done this to me!! I mean come on!!!! That is just ridiculous, it's liek being an indian giver! I say write them off!!!!
2007-05-21 06:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋