So, here is my story and I definately need help here.
I am IM-ing with my sister earlier this morning and realized that my boyfriend is depressed. It didn't take her telling me; it took me telling her a story and I had to stop and say WTF...he is depressed. Now; I will give you a simple reasons why I am thinking this is the case. If not then maybe I am crazy...(which a little).
Doesn't go out all weekend will sit inside if you let him.
Constantly has something ailing him.
Eat's way too much
Sleeps during the day alot if you let him, and then is up all night.
Doesn't do anything such as yard work. Got him to cut the grass twice...now I am doing it.
Will sit in his p.j's all weekend!
Spends money irratically...
Will let his mail pile up for three weeks.
Complaines to me about every little thing I do wrong.
Now, I know most people would tell me to leave, but I do truly love him and want to stand by him. I want him to get help, but I am afraid? what 2 do
2007-05-21 04:53:38 · 4 answers · asked by pattiof 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
yes it sounds like depression maybe even bi polar...you need to talk to him..keep in mind it is more difficult to get a man to see a doctor of any kind let alone suggest he see a therapist or psychologist ...be kind tell him the things that worry you and that you want the best for him....don't say things like stop being so lazy or why don't you ever do anything or better yet whats wrong with you..cause he doesn't know....I'm sorry he is going through this and well so are you and may I say good for you that you want to stand by him...Good Luck I hope you are able to help him get the help he needs. also remember he may not want to but keep being encouraging, he has to go when he is ready unfortunately..oh and it may be annoying to do but dont stop doing what you are doing thinking its going to make him do it cause it won't work...encourage him to do things with you...
2007-05-21 06:20:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him you are concerned and tell him why. Be specific. Then get him into a doctor to discuss it. A doctor can prescribe medication or therapy that will make a big difference. If he refuses to get help, there is little you can do. You may have to leave. But you are wise to consider that your problem may be the depression. If you can convince him to get the help he needs, things can work out find between the two of you.
p.s. Get online and google depression. Then find some good information to print up for him. If you have something concrete to show him what his problem is, then you might have a better chance of getting him to get help. Good luck!
2007-05-21 11:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs serious help, it sounds like a bit more then just depression. You need to tell him exactly what you think, heck show him this question you worded it well. Tell him you are worried and he needs to become more proactive. If he doesn't think he can, tell him to get help, and you will be there for him. Try and try again but if it doesn't work, I would leave him, because eventually it will bring you down.
2007-05-21 12:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Italia 28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say its depresion, he doesn appreciate what you do i know that is hard to let go somebody you love cuz i cant my self. but dont cut the grass ur self cuz he doesnt want too. tell him how you feel im sure you haved. try to make him smile. you been a while with him remember something. motivate him to do somthing diffrent. do you know places that he likes to go?
by him a rose or chocolates men like that too. besides that dont let him yiel at you. your worth better than that.
if you want my email is sweetyhoneyn@yahoo.com so you can right to me
2007-05-21 13:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋