I am going to be married to a man that I love with all of my heart...but he is muslim. I come from a very strong christain family. My wedding is drawing near and I have put off sending my invitations as much as I can but I don't know if I should invite my family. His family is muslim and both are very strong in their beliefs. If I invite his family mine will be angry at me forever and if I invite his instead they could disown him forever. I am scared that if I invite both of them their will be a fued between whose religion is right. Any Suggestions......
2007-05-21 04:40:03 · 22 answers · asked by poptart_babe06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This shouldn't be about "whose religion is right." It's your wedding, the joining of two families into one. As long as you and your husband are ok with what each of you expects out of the wedding, breathe a big sigh and celebrate. Then, if you want someone there, invite that person, regardless of their religious affiliation.
I am a Christian, who recently married a Muslim. We had a semi-traditional non-denominational ceremony, with bits of readings from the Bible thrown in. Then, we had the Nikah ceremony in a separate room later that evening with my parents and some of his friends from the mosque. It was unique, special, and truly US. I had a couple of super-conservative family members there, and they said how beautiful it was. And my husband's friends from the mosque danced and had as much fun as my Christian friends and family. It was a happy medium, and there were no scenes made by anyone.
My husband's family would have come if they had been able to, but they are all overseas. However, we got congratulatory phone calls from them all day on our wedding day. Maybe I'm just really lucky that my family and my husband's family are open minded, but I can't imagine someone throwing a temper tantrum at a wedding, if they truly love the people getting married....
Good luck!
2007-05-21 05:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Marissa H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is you and your fiance's wedding. You two should have both of your families there. You could put something in the invitation announcing the two religions so those that do not agree with the marriage will stay at home. Both of your families should be invited. The main reason for a wedding is to bring the two families, as different as they may be, together to celebrate love.
2007-05-21 07:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
I am a Muslim, and I have many close friends with Christians.
I think that you should start your wedded life by inviting BOTH sides. BY doing this, you are showing both families that they Have to respect each other. If you choose one family over the other, or choose to have 2 separate ceremonies, its showing your families thats its OK to dislike another religious group.
Also, Muslims and Christians have very similiar teachings. As you might know, muslims also believe in Adam , and Moses, and Noah etc . So, in your prayer, instead of calling God by a particular name, say "God of Adam".
Another thing, most Muslims and Christians are tolerant people. The only people who judge each other based on religion are Ignorant, and UN-educated people.
So use your wedding to show the world that Love truly does not know any boundaries!
Good luck, if you have any more questions email me at fountainfantasytt@yahoo.com
2007-05-21 05:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by Caribbean_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that you are marrying a man and that your families have never met? Also, are you actually contemplating not inviting one side or the other? You need to rethink this whole thing. Who fights at weddings? Is this an episode of Jerry Springer? You can not have a wedding and not invite one side or the other. First it's rude, second, it's rude. You might be too young for marriage and should possibly consider a postponement until both sides have actually met.
2007-05-21 06:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when 2 people love each other I think that is the ultimate linkage to both families. If your family and his respect the relationship than I think the religion will follow through. Each family can have strong beliefs in their religion and if both parties are that strong they should be strong enough to combine or openly accept each others beliefs. Love isn't a religion its a deep emotional connection between two people whose love should be felt and acknowledged by the families. Love they say conquers all so I wish you the best and good luck!!
2007-05-21 05:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should invite everyone, but perhaps you should have thought of this sooner. Your invitation could be worded about how wonderful it is to bring two such diverse cultures together and say something about the beauty of each of them and those who object would get the idea of what you plan to do and stay away... I don't know what type of ceremony you have planned, but if you plan to have a mixed traditions ceremony, that could be indicated clearly as well and I think each family would get the idea that your union and that day would be a good way of promoting harmony between your families. There's no reason it should be One "VS" the other... each is supposed to be a loving non-judgemental culture... why can't everyone get over themselves and just love and except each other? PS - I bet your children will be beautiful and excepting of everyone!
2007-05-21 06:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Marianne D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many couples from different faiths have two ceremonys or incorporate elements from each other's faiths into one ceremony. This should show each family that that you respect them and their religion. Also having food that will please both families will help create a feeling of good will. Part of you and your future husbands job is to plan the wedding and reception in such a way that your guests will feel welcomed and comfortable. You can look at Muslim wedding sites for ideas & information.
2007-05-21 05:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by lemonlimesherbet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you two are going to be married and all these people will need to learn to accept each other then I think you need to have a talk with your family and he needs to have a talk with his about accepting each other. Obviously you both come from very caring and loving families. They should both recognize this quality in each other and stop worrying about what church someone goes to. My daughter has a very close friend who is Muslim and her siblings and father and mother are sooooooo nice, I just love this family! And I am a devote Christian myself, but as a Christian I love others for the goodness in them and these people are really good people. Not all Christians are good people and not all Muslims are good people and not all Jews are good people. It doesn't have to do with the church you attend, but what's inside each of us. Be bigger that each of your families and start the acceptance now so that everyone can celebrate the coming together of two wonderful people. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-21 04:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on getting married. I would invite both sides. If you only pick and choose who comes people will feel offended. Let them choose if they want to come or not.
Good Luck and Have a wonderful wedding.
2007-05-21 04:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by lema10805 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is muslim & her now husband is christiain they had two ceremonys & they invited both families to both ceremonys...
Or
Skip the religious part and just have a justice of the peace and a unity candle ceremony
Good Luck!!!
2007-05-21 05:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by KelLzZz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋