2007-05-21 04:33:03 · 18 answers · asked by giea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
loving someone, yes it is, but falling in love with someone is not
2007-05-21 04:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by sweethyedreamer213 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Someone here hit the nail on the head: falling in love with someone is not necessarily a choice. Actually LOVING someone IS a choice. You can learn to love. You have to work at maintaining love. Love is more than just that special feeling in your heart when you first lay eyes on "the one." It takes effort. It takes care. It takes... choice.
2007-05-21 11:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you define love plays a part in whether you have a choice in love.
You can't choose your family, yet the majority of people love family unconditionally even when they hate them.
You love your friends and make them like your family, you think you choose them, but you were bound to them before you ever met. You can't choose to love them, you just do.
If you love mankind it is because you are meant to, that can't be taught or chosen, to remove it is to remove the breath of life.
Finally romantic love, you may think you chose it but in reality it chose you. Love is eternal, without even knowing it we love someone from the first time we meet, even when you think you don't like someone, love is there just waiting to shine. However that doesn't mean you can just mess about.
So no love is not a choice. Love is choosing to say your sorry and to ask forgiveness. Love is choosing to hold a person in your heart forever and never let go. Love is being honest and accepting you differences. Love is love, it's illogical, irrational and sometime frownd upon, but it is still Love.
2007-05-21 18:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is both a choice and an action.
2007-05-21 11:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes love is a choice and it should be used wisely
2007-05-21 11:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by Hollister Chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initially probably not, but when you're married it's definitely a choice as the years go by to stay committed!
2007-05-21 11:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a response. You can choose those you associate with, but not whom to love, or whom to be attracted to.
Making a choice to love someone is more likely acknowledging that you already are attracted to them.
2007-05-21 11:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Christopher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Love is always about choices. Choosing to be committed to your partner. Choosing to do things to make them happy, and avoid things that make them unhappy. Choosing to behave in ways that strengthen your bond. Choosing to put your relationship first and foremost in life.
If you see love as a lack of choice, you're short-changing your partner and allowing yourself to refuse to commit yourself 100% to your relationship.
2007-05-21 11:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love is a choice------yes---I also believe it can be an acquired or learned trait-------also the faces of love can evolve as well.
2007-05-21 11:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make the choice to ignore it, it will come to you someday anyway.
2007-05-21 11:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by whitewolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. People commonly confuse attraction, infatuation, obsession, and romance with love. They are not to be confused.
2007-05-21 11:37:25 · answer #11 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋