we have 5 nieces and nephews and don't want to leave any of them out - is that too many children to include in our wedding party? we're only having 3 bridesmaids/3 groomsman....
2007-05-21 04:27:09 · 33 answers · asked by hmcguire314 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it depends on the age of the children, and what it is you would like for them to do. The number is up to you. And of course, with anything dealing with children, you need a sense of humor in case something does happen. If the bride and groom are not fazed by any unintended actions, the guests will be okay. If they are old enough, they will feel really special to take part and most likely behave. Also, think about the mood and tone of your wedding. If you want it to be super formal, it's probably not a great idea for so many children to be involved...or you can have them do different things, if some are too young to walk down the aisle and stand up front for the whole ceremony. Perhaps each wedding attendant can be responsible for watching over a child.
Best wishes!!
2007-05-21 05:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by momjoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say five is a bit much. Its going to be really difficult to get 5 kids to do what they are supposed to do for the wedding. Two are difficult enough to coordinate. I know you don't want to leave anyone out or hurt any feelings, so pick the two oldest. Oldest boy and oldest girl. The other three can understand that logic. They are probably already used to the idea that the bigger kids get to do stuff they don't get to do and it probably won't hurt their feelings. As adorable ( and possibly humorous in a fun loving light hearted way) as five child attendants might be, I just can't imagine coordinating that many kids will go very smoothly. This stuff isn't that fun for them anyway. They're kids! They want to play and have fun not stand still and be quiet during an hour long ceremony. Put five of them together and you're at least guaranteed some entertainment. On the other hand, if that's what you're looking for (unexpected entertainment), then go for it. It will probably be really cute. Definitely have their parents close to the front though. Makes it easier to get them to behave a little better if they can see Mom and Dad are watching.
2007-05-21 04:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your day and you should do what you want. I am having trouble right now with 3 flowergirls. I don't know whether they should stay or go.
WELL BEHAVED children make for an amazingly gorgeous wedding, but if they chose to do their own thing...it is far from cute.
I attended a wedding yesterday where the flowergirl was jumping up and down the stairs and wandering around. She then proceeded to yell out over the preacher. She is generally a well behaved child, but standing still that long didn't work for her.
If they are all 5 and up, then it will be alright.
Good luck...and remember it is your day!
2007-05-21 04:52:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My SIL did it. You definitely need an adult skilled with children to supervise them, as younger ones may wander in opposite directions during the excitement of the wedding. Or, one may get scared and cry. You have to be prepared for all sorts of unexpected behavior - a sense of humor helps.
So, if you enjoy children and won't freak out if something goes awry, including them in your wedding is a nice idea. If, however, you would crack under stress, maybe you should find a different way of honoring your nieces and nephews.
2007-05-21 04:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by not yet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the chidrens ages. Children do tend to not follow directions, are distracted easily, fool around at the wrong times, etc. I realize you don't want to leave them out; but if they are young, I'm sure they won't even feel left out. You can always have them dressed like the "big" people without actually being in the wedding party. You can give them their own table (providing they're old enough), or you can have them seated at the bride/groom's table.
2007-05-21 04:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by MystiSaint 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 5 on top of your other 6 is a bit much, ecspecially in the way of finances but this is you and your hubby's wedding and if that is what you want than go for it!!! Maybe you could cut costs in other areas to compensate!! This day is all about you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!!Best wishes!
2007-05-21 04:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, but that is because I don't think having lots of children at a wedding is right. I mean I would have a ring bearer and flower girl, but more than that seems like too much. But....it's your wedding, so don't let anyone tell you how to do it.
2007-05-21 04:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by jetskichick25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem...But I've got 8 neices and nephews...and they are ALL going to be in the wedding...the oldest will be 8 and the youngest will be 4 months...maybe it's crazy, but I love them all too much to leave them out of the most important day of my life...It's your wedding and if you want to have them all in it, then do it...I think it will be beautiful...
2007-05-21 07:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by emeia04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want them in your wedding because you love them and want them to share in your day, them by all means, have all five of them! It's your wedding! There are kid people and there are not kid people; I think a lot of the answers you've received are from a lot of people who are anti-kid, anti-mess, anti-fuss. If the kids act up, how will they act up? You know these children... are they the kind of kids who, if they do act out, will throw temper tantrums? Or will they run around and make everyone laugh? And then think about how you feel about that. Personally, if I had a bunch of kids running around acting cute and making people laugh at my wedding, I'd be really happy with that. You know these kids... you know whether or not they can behave themselves and how their misbehavior is likey to manifest itself... and you know how people react to these 5 children in particular. Having 5 kids in your wedding could be wonderful; it could also be hell. It really depends on the kids and how you react to them, not etiquette or social acceptance or anything else.
2007-05-21 05:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Elizabeth G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on their ages. If they are tweenagers, you can make them junior bridesmaids/groomsmen. Then if you have smaller ones, you can use them for flower girl/ring barrer. You can also use the idea for the older ones to be ushers, registry attendants, waitors/waitresses for the reception. There are many ways to go about it to include everyone but not to overcrowd the actual ceremony.
2007-05-21 04:32:24 · answer #10 · answered by clbowman06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋