OK, here's the setup. You just joined an adult sports league. You played 3 games and hung out with your team once after a game. Your team captain's sister unexpectedly dies. You do not know her personally. You never hang out with the guy other than league functions. Do you attend her funeral?
2007-05-21 04:05:57 · 37 answers · asked by Stanicus 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'd ask a few of the other members of the league, see if anyone else is going.If nobody else from the team is going, then there is no need for you to go.However, if they are, it would be a nice sign of respect.Don't feel bad if you don't go though, there are no rules, just do what you feel comfortable with.I've been to many funerals for company for my husband where I never knew the deceased.
2007-05-21 04:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by CMH 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What's your goal with being the captains friend? Most ppl have an instant connection or they feel like acquaintances.
You should also talk with other team - mates and get a feeling on what they're doing. Sometimes they'll organize a "Card" or "Group pot-luck".
Should you think that the captain is a good frined, then go and give him support. If you think that the captain is an acquaintance, then work with this team and find what suits you.
Most ppl don't think of this, but most ppl need the support about three weeks after the funeral ... that's kinda when reality sinks in ... and it's good to start having ppl stop by with food to check on the grieving.
2007-05-21 04:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not to the funeral. I might attend the wake. The wake is to pay respects to the family. The funeral is really more for close friends and relatives. Send a nice card. Or take up a collection from the whole team and send a small floral arrangment and a card to their house.
2007-05-21 04:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The actual funeral services? No, probably not. But I would attend the calling hours to at least extend my sympathies to the brother. I'd make a quick appearance, shake hands, express my sympathies and leave.
Funerals aren't for the deceased. It's about supporting the friends & family left behind.
2007-05-21 04:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go to the actual funeral unless you could go with other team members. What I would do is go to the visitation before the funeral and sign the guest register just to let him know you care.
2007-05-21 04:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by London Catlover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably would send a sympathy card. But I wouldnt go to a funeral of a person I dont know.
2007-05-21 04:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by lickonsumhonee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funeral no. That is more for close family. If you want to stop in to pay your respecsts at the viewing, that would be nice. You just have to put on a nice shirt, stop in, pay your respects and go...The whole thing should take 15 minutes.
2007-05-21 04:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you wouldn't be obligated to attend the funeral. Nor would a card be expected from such a casual acquaintance. However you could acknowledge his loss verbally at your next meeting if you feel it is appropriate.
2007-05-21 04:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Rosemary's Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not really required for you to go. However, if there is no real conflict, I don't see how it would hurt. You would be showing your support out of kindness. Kindness is always a good choice whether you know a person well or not. If you choose not to go, though, a sympathy card would be appropriate.
2007-05-21 05:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by Mistress Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but I'd at least send him a sympathy card and flowers to the funeral home.
2007-05-21 04:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋