A question about christianity and sex?

Question

I'm confused about the whole idea of christianity and sex. Now which is it? Do christians believe that sex is a sin period, which if that's the case then my question is why would it be a sin if it's the only way, up until recently through science, to have a baby? Or do they believe that it is only lustful or sexual thoughts that are sinful, if so then my question is are you supposed to have sex without thinking about it or something? Or do they simply believe that sex before marriage is a sin, if this is the case then I ask why is it so important to be married before having sex, I can understand before having kids, but having sex does not mean you WILL have kids just that you might? Or is it only members of the clergy, holy men, priests, the pope, etc. who are bound from having sex, and if so why is that?

I'm out of room so let me finish of my question in the details below, please read them before answering.

I've heard all these ideas about the christian ideas of sex and how and when it should be done and I'm sure there are countless others. My question is which is it, is it a combination of these ideas and/or others? And also, why at all do christians feel the need to be so stingy about an act that is vital to the continuation of human life and seems to come so naturally.

And please lets keep this conversation civil. I don't mean for this question to be insulting I'm just curious and wish to know once and for all how the christians themselves view sex. not how the media or christian haters percieve how the christians view sex. thanks.

Answer 1

Well sex was created by God so how can it be a sin. Lustful thoughts? Well that’s human nature; it’s whether we act on them in a wrong way that is a sin (such as cheating). Now this is just my opinion but as for the whole marriage thing, it is what you feel towards the other person. I in my heart I am married to my fiancée, I call myself married, but our wedding isn't until next January. We live together and sleep together, and I do not feel that I am committing a sin because I am committed to him, devoted to him; I am in every sense of the word his wife, both physically and emotionally. The vows we have said may not have been in a church, and we may not have the papers yet, but I am his wife, or vows were between me and him, and God. If I was truly committing a sin, God would deal with me on it, as He has on other things in the past.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with sex in itself.
Sex before marriage is prohibited in the Bible. Why is it important to be married before having sex? Commitment, I'm sure, is part of it. As apparently decided, the purpose of sex, besides enjoyment, is to have kids or procreate. A kid with no father is a sad thing - or vice versa. I guess I see it in a different light. I see it as God sees sex as SO important that it should only be shared within a committed relationship and the only way to know if someone is in a committed relationship is if they are married.
There's examples in the Bible of when the Israelite men all of a sudden started divorcing their wives for "newer models" - basically - and God punished them for it. They didn't want to stay in that commitment. Love, honor and cherish. Why give it up, if you know he's not committed to you - or has no need to stick around? Admittedly, marriage vows now-a-days aren't exactly taken too seriously by most - but Biblically - till death do us part was taken very seriously. Let your "yes" mean "yes" and your "no" mean "no"....meaning don't commit to something you have no desire to seriously follow through on.

Answer 3

Ok, well first off the Bible does not say directly that you are only allowed sex after marriage. But, as it was made by God as the gift for a man and his wife to share, it was created to only be enjoyed once married. Consequencly, the joy of a husband and wife who love each other and are able to share their first time together is a great establishment of their marriage, and the fact that they are now 'one' body. For other things, its not really a matter of it being 'allowed' but rather that it brings you into a situation when it will be easier for you to be tempted into doing something that you will regret. For example, if you decide to wait until marriage to have sex, but participate in other very sensual activites, though you are not breaking any rules, you put yourself in a situation where it may be easy for you to ignore you wishes and let your feelings take over. In other words, it doesn't say that you are not 'allowed' to do it, but you are very close to the edge of temptation and it would not be particularily advisible. In my opinion, it would be to easy to lose your judgement and I would advise you to try an avoid very sensual things such as foreplay before marriage. I hope that this helps you out a bit :)

Answer 4

The entire discussion of sexual practices for the Christian is fraught with practical difficulties. While it is true that some sects have believed that all sexual practices are sinful, Paul, who is usually quoted about these practices suggests that it is not sinful if between husband and wife. I would suggest further that these practices should be from love and mutual care for each, rather than one-sided or from lust.
Thomas Aquinas had some interesting comments about Christian sexual practices in which he recognizes and deals with some of the practical difficulties. I suggest those for amplification, although not necessarily the final word on the issue.
While there is certainly no lack of lust in the world, the concept is for humans to rise above their natural inclinations. If one is not married, then he or she is expected to refrain from either sexual practices or thoughts. This, of course, is much more difficult in an age in which sexual innuendo is provided in almost every visible and aural media, although I would truly be interested in how many hamburgers Paris Hilton's car washing video actually sold.
Clerical celibacy is practiced primarily by Roman Catholic and Eastern Orthodox priests. The source of this concept is that we imitate the life of Christ who treated His church as His bride. Hence the efforts at negating one's natural sexual proclivities do more than just deny the flesh: they are intended to focus on the spiritual aspect of mankind, thus turning away from what is natural and earthly to that which is spiritual and hence divine and eternal.
As in all things, man is asked to make a choice, whether to be bound to the earth and be "natural" or to understand that our eternal life is bound up with the spiritual aspects of our beings. As Aquinas noted, the actual practice is much more difficult than the concept.
It is unfortunate that the modern world places so much importance on sexual matters, even so far as to define groups of human beings by their sexual tendencies. We seem to have evolved into groups of sexual beings which would like a casually spiritual side instead of the other way around.

Answer 5

Sex is sacred. The marriage of a man and woman is ordained of God. Since sex is sacred, only married couples should have sex. Having sex when not married (or if cheating), or even gay sex, is a violation of the sacredness of intimacy.

Also, in a non religious view, having sex before marriage can create a lot of problems, such as custody rights, abortion, whatever. Life is happier when that stuff is saved for marriage.

Answer 6

In the beginning God made man and woman and they two shall become one flesh (and enjoy this). Also this act of love produces something special = a living baby.

Sex as God has planned and not a perversion of Gods plan is love and love is everlasting. So everlasting rewards.

Lust is lusting after the other woman, etc. Lust is Idolatry, adultery & fornications. Sex with the one committed to is Holy and the marriage bed undefiled. And the sexual pleasures are part of that and explored between these two who love each other & personal between these two.


Actually, when two who are born of God get married, they have a great sex life because they are equally yoked. (As long as they are obedient Christians.) That means God is 1st, then ones spouse, then the children, then the career.


Also, some are born eunichs and some make themself eunichs for the Gospel sake. This is a small %. God blesses the man who finds his women as is written in the bible.

Premarital sex with someone(s) (including perverted forms) other than who you are going to marry is fornication. That is why premarital sex is wrong in Gods eyes. It is written to not commit adultery in the 10 commandments, so is important.

Answer 7

Sex is not sinful as long as it is done within marriage. As long as you're married, you can think about it with your spouse. But it would be wrong to be married and think about having sex with someone else. It's wrong to commit adultery.

Sex before marriage is wrong because if you are not committed enough to marry, then you should not be having sex. You should only have sex with someone you are totally committed to. Otherwise, you'll end up leaving that person and getting with someone else. Then you will have had multiple sex partners, which makes sex less valuable and meaningful when you do get married. And even with protection, you don't know if it is 100%, and you might get pregnant.

Answer 8

Sex within a marriage is not a sin. The Bible says the marriage bed is undefiled.

And no, sex is not just for procreation.

Sex is a special gift you should save and give just to your husband/wife. Why would you want to give a used gift to the person you love the most. Sex outside of marriage also has a host of potential problems: unwanted/unplanned pregnancies, STDs, AIDS, etc.

Answer 9

Christianity believes sex is for married couples. They don't believe it is sinful. But they believe that the best way to have it is with your partner in life -- and to have LOTS of it. Now why does God doesn't want you to have sex outside of marriage? I think we clearly see why now: cervical cancers, HIV, etc. He wants to protect you from stupidity. There's also a better appreciation of sex if it is between two virgins.

Answer 10

the bible encourages Christians to enjoy a lot of sex
proverbs 5:19..with her love may you be in Ecstasy constantly
it doesn't say only to procreate
your trouble is you listen to Christan religions
most christian religions do not really follow the bible
you may think Christians are sexually repressed but your wrong
yes the bible tells us not to have sex before marriage or outside of marriage but that just proves what a truly loving god we have
gods rules protect Christians form
aids and other stds
broken marriages from affairs
child support from one night stands
unwanted pregnancy's
revenge from jilted lovers
it protects us from people on the hunt for sex ...you know the ones who love you until they get you then move on to prey on another piece of meat(especially hunting woman)
sex is good but with love it is fantastic
so if you think that is repression your right but i think of it as a god given right between two people who love each other