some person claims that he is talking the truth, like me, but such person do not act, speak and write 100% according to truth, but he lives according to truth 90% and his failures are 10%. will you help such person to overcome his mistake and to be pure or you will condemn such person and throw his 90% of good into deep water because of his 10% of mistakes?
what if such person was your child?
2007-05-21 03:37:17 · 12 answers · asked by Suchness 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Many people are this way. Yes I have a tendency to trust someone like this 90% correct who makes mistakes at times. I trust myself, because I am honest from my heart, but I know or learn I am wrong about something at times. It doesn't make me a liar to be wrong.
The person who really let me down & lied to me, it takes a while to regain that trust once it is lost. My child was 10% right and 90%wrong at one time through her great rebellion. So I did grieve & prayed over her and also, when God saved her from her rebellious ways, and she turned back into my daughter again, it still took time for me to trust her again. Now I may trust her more than anyone in my life, because she is trustworthy. But she has proven trustworthy.
But the one who is 100% trustworthy is God, and no one can be 100% righteous all the time. Only Jesus Christ righteousness.
2007-05-21 03:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by t_a_m_i_l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...this is a hard one. I'm so sorry this happened to you. This really is unthinkable - what she did. You two were in college and so young and had so much life to live and SHE made the decision for both of you to take that life away. She completely deceived you in the worst way and I will tell you something, which I can pretty much guarentee....there IS more. When you lie about something sooo huge and so awful and don't really feel any genuine remourse about it then there's a good chance that this sort of Behavior is in her character. I mean she told you matter of factly and actually laughed about it. For someone else to choose your life course for you....to say they love you and want the best for you but still they purposely change the course of your life, knowing that you were destined for amazing things but instead she hands you a difficult hand - a baby at the age of 20! You should never have had to struggle or sacrifice or settle. You could have become a dentist and got settled first. You still would had had your children but you could have been older, wiser, more financially secure, you could have given your children more! So this is a hard decision for you bc of what she did and how huge the Reprocusions have been and also because this shows a huge character flaw in your wife and it means that there could be a lot more she isn't telling you. she disnt come to you and sit you down to clear things up. She for drunk and let it slip out. And even made a joke out of the whole thing. Your wife should have wanted the world for you if she loved you back then. She should jaw been pushing you to become a dentist and supporting you. Instead she decided that you weren't destined for excellence and instead for a medicore life and 3 kids in your 20's. I'm not saying you don't love your children or your life - you sound happy and that's great. But you should have had more. You should have built a foundation and a life before the kids came. You still could have had your wife and kids but just a bit later. She could have trusted in your love but she didn't. You can still be a dentist but with sooo much more work and it shouldn't have been That way. Becoming a dentist with a family of 3 kids and a wife to support is beyond difficult, some may even say it's impossible. I think you need to seriously talk to your wife. You don't want to get over this and then in a few Years something else comes out. Clear the air now. Whether you stay or not is your choice obviously. You should never stay in a marriage solely bc of the kids. Yes they will be shaken and upset if you Seperate but if you stay in a marriage that'd built on lies and resentment then eventually it will damage the children more than if you had left. This is not your fault for not using condoms a few times. She told you she was on the pill and if she really was on the pill then she wouldn't have gotten pregnant. You may need some Councilling to talk this out and decide what you want to do. The problem is not the 1 lie she told, it's the fact That it was such a horrible and deceitful lie and it appears that it really didn't effect her Thst much. If she truely loved you, she should have been steuggling with this lie for years, it should have been eating away at her. It appears she doesnt comprehend how awful it is. The problem is That there's probably more. She's shown a very selfish and deceitful side to herself. You Need to clear the air. Yes you love her and you love your kids and you love your life and maybe you can salvage this life and get over what she did....I don't know. You're in your 20's and you have 3 kids!! You have a lot of life ahead of you so make the right decision now. I'm sorry this happened to you. You didn't deserve it and it's horribly unfair. I wish you all the best.
2016-05-18 22:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can trust that person to be right 90% of the time and wrong 10% of the time. Would that mean that 90% of the time, you are wrong? What if that person screws you up 100% only 10% of the time?
2007-05-21 03:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps that is one reason why Jesus gave the Jews and Christians the '2 or more witnesses' principle. We all make mistakes (10% in the above question). Yet, many people here inthe USA (Christianity included) do not apply it. If they did, the 'old testament would be the law of Moses (2 Cor. 3:13-14), not Genesis-Malachi.
2007-05-21 03:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by jefferyspringer57@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are human; therefore they are NEVER 100% trustworthy. Are YOU?
FORGIVENESS is the key to peace. Accepting Christ is the only 100% guaranteed salvation from "deep water"....regardless of the percentage of mistakes / failures!
2007-05-21 03:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's a saying that if you aren't making mistakes, you aren't doing anything.
If the 10% was human error, then that person deserves (at least) to be understood.
Sometimes, not helping a person is actually better for him/her.
2007-05-21 03:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Max 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive his 10% mistakes since they aren't intentional but take everything he says with a grain of salt.
2007-05-21 03:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We should try to help that person in a loving manner. In the event that we fail, GOD has the ultimate say-so. But we are surely called to help.
2007-05-21 03:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Soundtrack to a Nightmare 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can trust them 90% of the time
2007-05-21 03:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by bernman101 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of us are perfect. And I help where I can. But Jesus lived the perfect life. This is why we need Him. He atoned for us.
2007-05-21 03:40:36 · answer #10 · answered by RB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋