After a few minor arguments, my girlfriend has recently told me that she doesn't trust me...........she wants to and to some degree does, but not implicitly.
My question is this, having been guilty of not divulging the entire truth about my past (not cheating or lying) can she ever learn to trust me without question or will there always be some doubt as to whether I have anything to hide from her?
Thanks in advance.
2007-05-21 03:23:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to learn how to open up with your girlfriend and be willing to talk about anything. If you continue to hold back about things that have happened in the past she is not going to be trust you. When you are in a relationship you have to know how to trust someone completely. It will take time but you will be successful with this task. Just remember that everyone has a past and you need to learn from your past mistakes.
2007-05-21 03:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there: you know this really depends on her.now i don't know what this all really about,and it's none of my bussiness,however what i am concerned about is the true nature of all of this.you say is has nothing to do with cheating or lying yet it is very clear that this involves something of great sugnifcence to her .maybe it wouldn't hurt for you to think about why you withheld all this from her to begin with,when you keep secrets from someone you love,even when it may not mean anything to you :still it leaves an air of mistrust to her because you hide it from her.i think maybe the real question here is why did you feel that you neened to hide it?as far as wether or not she will completely trust,you i doubt it because that doubt is already there.if yous wre planning to marry,you might as well plan on it that she will more than liklely keep questioning what you do and where you go and who you're seeing and why.(my heart goes out to both of you).....take care now i hope i was able to help a little.
2007-05-21 04:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well trust takes a long time to earn if one has lost it and for sometime there will be doubt and i do think it is possiable to gain it back but it does take a long long time and sometimes there isnt ever 100 % trust back after that. It really depends on how she is and how you are. But keep in mind if there is no trust there isnt a relationship. However you lost the trust so you have to gain it back and remember it takes a long time to do so.
2007-05-21 03:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by crazy_elf_220 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have learned to trust their significant others in cases that DID involve cheating. So yes, it definitely can be done. It takes time. It takes effort by BOTH parties to make it work. If both are not willing to try, it is best to part and move on. That said, if you really want to make it work, a trip to couples' counseling would benefit you both. Good luck!
2007-05-21 03:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once trust is lost id say its never to be regained
but if she wants to make a go of it then you both have the wipe the slate clean and be honest with each other and she can not bring up the past again
if she keeps re hashing old stuff then thats unfair on you
so she needs to make a decision
can she move on or not cause if she decides to move on then she has to forget the past its unfair to repeatedly punish someone for an old mistake
2007-05-21 03:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by leelu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a fragile thing that takes a lot of time to build, particularly when there is reason for someone to believe that you haven't been totally honest with them. It will probably be a long time before she can fully trust you, but if you keep working on it, it can be done.
2007-05-21 03:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some day she will be able to trust u but it might take awhile. In the meantime just do the best u can to show her how much u love her and that u would never hurt her. Good Luck.
2007-05-21 03:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by country_chick_09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what you did in the past. To get her to trust you maybe try making her your world. Devote yourself to her and don't do anything that will make her have a reason not to trust you.
2007-05-21 03:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the depth of deception. It could be re-established for some. For me, not likely. It would always be in the back of my mind. The question would then be am I willing to live with this.
2007-05-21 03:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She`s the one with the problem. Why do you have to divulge the entire truth about your past? It`s not all her business. She sounds insecure to me.
2007-05-21 03:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by *~STEVIE~* *~B~* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋