Hi - I had a bad fight with my wife last night. I accidentally broke her laptop too! She is quite upset this morning and is not willing to make up with me. Do you guys have any tips on what I can do?
2007-05-21 03:05:48 · 15 answers · asked by jj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give it time, go buy her a laptop.......and apologize, apologize constantly!!
2007-05-21 03:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by true_wahine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest thing you can do to make up with your wife is to really listen to her and let her know you get how she feels. If you defend, deny, or attack, she won't get over it. That is how it is. You need to fix the laptop or get her a new one, apologize, and tell her how the two of you will prevent future crap like last night happening again. Consider doing something really nice for her that she would enjoy. Marriage is a negotiation, a friendship. You can't have tantrums. I don't know the whole story, so I can't really say too much. I can just tell you that to let her know you are sorry you will have to let her know you understand how she feels. Don't justify your actions, just empathasize with what she is going through. Give her your patience while she cools down. It will get better. If this is something that happens often, consider marriage counseling to define rules of conduct, negotiation and problem solving, etc. It can change the course of a marriage and prevent a divorce. If this is just some fluke, stupid night, then forget the counseling and go with the above. Best of luck!
2007-05-21 03:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to buy her a new laptop.
NOW, has this happened before? Do you lose your temper with her too often, or get very angry far above what you should for the situation? (I'm not saying you are this way, only you know if you are). If you do, then you are doing a lot of damage to your relationship and eventually she will get fed up with it and trying to make up with her will mean virtually nothing. IF you do have a tendency to get too angry, you need to admit this to yourself, and really try hard to control your anger and treat her better. Remember, she is your wife and you loved her enough to marry her. Your spouse should be the one you treat 'the best', not the worst.
2007-05-21 03:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you can start with replacing her property...items are the easiest to begin with...mainly because they ARE able to be repaired or replaced...feelings;however, are not that simple, and actually have nothing to do with you after you have said your peace, apologies, or gestures of them both (like flowers, candy, card, shopping spree, etc) . After you truly humble yourself to do some of these things LET IT GO. ( you can only say you're sorry so many times when it's sincere!) your wife must internalize or channel her emotions whether she's hurt, mad, sad, or disappointed...this step may or may not take a long time...but the key for you is to be patient, and allow her time to breath and work through whatever she is going through. ...And truly I wish you all a happy and productive marriage!
2007-05-21 03:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by captincrunch17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all buy her a new laptop or get it fixed if you can and apologise, maybe take her out or plan a special evening in with the whole thing. Wine, flowers and make it up to her.
2007-05-21 03:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, replace her laptop and apologize for losing your cool.
Now, you lost it bacause you weren't communicating very well. That is what guys do to make a point they can't verbalize. Work on your communicating skills with your wife.
One more thing. That is legally a form of intimidation and could lead to assault charges. This happened to a friend of mine with a vacuum cleaner.
2007-05-21 03:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by fwflyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her mother with flowers and present your case honestly.On your way back buy her anew laptop with a gift she would love.Don't forget to pray before you enter the house.May God be on your side for a change.
2007-05-21 19:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling her your sorry, make her a nice candlelit dinner and of course buy her a new laptop - a better one if you can afford it!
2007-05-21 03:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi: God love ya ,i am not a guy but what i sugest is you better buy her another lap top since you broke hers and i think if i was you i would get a handle on your anger...,and maybe it wouldn't hurt if you think about whether or not your fight was worth all that.....bye now.sorry i am not a guy but i feel for ya.
2007-05-21 03:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all when fighting y do u want to break things and spoil it y u dont have mouth to talk or what u wnat to show on things is it ask her sorry for it and take her out for dinner
2007-05-24 23:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by niki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can one dare do do nonsense like this . Regret and promise for honest and sincerity and loyalty to her. Things speak otherwise. You r at wrong don't you agree.
2007-05-25 00:32:35 · answer #11 · answered by baboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋