My bf and I are very much in love and he normally treats me like a princess. The problem is that whenever he gets upset with me for anything instead of talking with me he will automatically yell at me and break up with me. This is over just simple relationship misunderstandings. A few days to a week later he will call and apologize and beg me to come back. He is an attorney and is under a lot of stress. Is there a way I can help him to communicate with me when he gets upset rather than losing his temper? We have a wonderful relationship otherwise and I really do not want to leave him.
2007-05-21 02:56:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try playing hard to get.....maybe thats the only way he will listen to you. Instead of going back to him right away, y dont u say " u will think about it", or "u dont know"....and if he ask why...or just wait for him to start talking, or a time that he will listen, and u can bring up that problem that u have with him....and hopefully that will open his ears and make him realize what he is doing to you..and your relationship!!
2007-05-21 03:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by true_wahine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ive been in this situation many times my fiance is also a lot of stress because of work, and usually they to act out on the relationship. But when there is something wrong, or any type of misunderstanding the best thing to do is TALK. but seriously talk, not yell, but simply talk. i know its easier said then done, ive done the whole talking and escalating to yelling thing, but we learned that things are not solved by yelling or disrespecting one another, we learned that if something is bothering us, its something that needs to be talked about, avoid holding in anything that bothers you, because it'll only get worst through time and then it will just blow. try to talk things out before going to bed together, try to go in with a clean slate, so that next day there is no resentment. Another thing ask him what might be bothering him. he might have things he need to talk about that are bothering him and he just needs to let out.
hope this helps.
Jan.
2007-05-21 10:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by Bride 2 be!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs anger management. If he is just yelling at you now that doesn't mean his anger won't lead to physical abuse. If you try to discuss it with him and he gets angry over it then I would say get out now. How do you know exactly what he is up to in those few days he doesn't want to talk to you. Find out more about this guy before you make any committment. Good Luck.
2007-05-21 10:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by nahimana34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn...he's an attonery acting like that...tell him your relationship is not a courtroom and if he continues with childish behavior you will leave him for good. Let him know he needs to communicate more when you guys have misunderstanding especially when he comes back a week later apologizing...
2007-05-21 10:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you have a aruement dont leave it to long to apologize as if u apologize quicker when he is angry he wont get as upset !
2007-05-21 10:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by crashcrashburn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anger management if this doesn't work....stay there being yelled at....
2007-05-21 10:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try sex
2007-05-21 09:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by kait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋