Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now but when we were at skool he dumped me as he cheated on me. I was devastated as he is my first love. Just to make matters worse i still slept with him after that as i wanted him back! then i found out that he was sleeping with a 14 year old as well as me! after that i begged and pleaded for him back but he didnt want me! then wen i stopped i got a phone call on christmas day saying how sorry he was. after that we started seeing each other and eventualy got back together. I love him so much but now i have a big problem with trusting him and i have become a bit of a control freak and im only 16. im scared that im going to be the one thats going to split us up again as i have become such a bunny boiler and a control freak and do not trust my botfriend even though he spends most of his time with me. Help me what should i do???
2007-05-21 01:48:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find someone who care about yoou
2007-05-21 01:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by olawunmi N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he cheated on you there is no way in hell that yuo shold have wanted him back once a cheat always a cheat.
2nd of all he is sleeping with a 14 year old how old is he that is totally wrong and needs to be put in jail.
Get away from him and find a better guy yeah he was your first love but he wont be your last. You are young give it time and dont go back to him. He will only hurt you over and over again. It seems he only wants you when he doesnt have anyone else and that is not the kind of guy that a bright girl like you needs to be caught up with. Move on find a better guy there are so many out there. You can do it i have faith in you tell him its over and that you want to go find a real man that is honest and sincere and doesnt use women. If you need someone to talk to i am here to listen.
2007-05-21 08:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by superthunda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the expression, 'asked and answered'?
It looks like you know you have already disgraced and devalued yourself many times, even after he cheated, just to hold on to him. You are worth more than that, and you deserve more than that, and I think you know this.
He is young, and so are you; if this was forever for him, he'd have not strayed. I hate to think of you missing out on someone who is worthy of your love and dedication because he has your heart. You cannot trust most cheaters to reform, but a cheater taken back desperately has no reason to reform at all.
Don't try to change him. Accept that you love an idea of someone who is not him, and allow your heart to break, and mend, and grow-- so you can meet someone really special.
2007-05-21 08:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by Christopher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on silly.. he is gonna cheat on you again, its just a matter of when. not if.. ou are too young to deal with that nonsense.. i know its hard, and everyone tells you you are so young, i remember when i was that age too, but lets be real... he already cheated on you a couple times, he has no respect for you as a person or a girlfriend, i dont care what he says.. stop wasting your time with that little boy and find somebody your age that is more mature... there are plenty of 16 yr old young men that will treat you right,,
2007-05-21 08:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by mayday3374 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating this guy and stop having sex. Be a kid. You are NOT ready for this type of relationship. Learn to be a person first. You sound like a dependent child searching for her father's love--this boy is not your father, this is something you and a therapist can work out. Please don't ruin your life. Sex is nothing to play with. Do you want to bring another child into this world who will be rejected by her father in the long run.
God Bless and be careful.
2007-05-21 08:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by Alea S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but I think you need to break up with him. If he doesn't love you any more then you should just finish the relationship. I mean like if you don't think he is doing these things then continue by all means but if all this relationship is going to just have him hate you then get back together there is no point. You deserve more then him and you have to think of it that way. Best of wishes.
2007-05-21 08:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my situation is almost same as u
if u love him u shud trust him
i make a wrong choice for not trusting my bf...
n i end up having a non-tag relationship
i dun have a status i dun have a gf status..but i still slept n do things with him
u shud trust som1 who spends more time on u even me, i want it so much, he dun give a damn on me now...he rather spend his time with his frens rather tan me...
some ppl might do things wrong for the first time but if he is willing to change tan u shud giv him another chance or giv yurself another chance of being together...
2007-05-21 08:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by charlene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care about you. Find someone who does. Maybe wait a year or so....you're very young.
2007-05-21 08:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I wouldn't trust him...watch him carefully for now.
2007-05-21 08:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by XxScreamoGoth42xX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋