About 3 weeks ago i met a guy and landed up going back to his place and had sex with him. The next morning he dropped me off at my place and asked "would he see me again" and my response was "yes". I haven't really heard much from him since and most communication comes from my side so last week i emailed and asked him straight out if he wanted to see me again or not and this was response "Am certainly keep to hook up again, just been quite busy, I know its not an excuse, but we must make a plan soon" and since then i haven't heard a word so my question is: Was this a definite one nightstand and he just doesn't want to hurt my feelings or do you think he wants to get together again...?
2007-05-21 01:47:51 · 16 answers · asked by Angelic Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think his answer says it all whether he realizes it or not.
He certainly wants to "hook up again."
Sure, that could also means "meet up" but if he was head over heels he would be there even if he worked a weird shift and got off at 7 am, he would want to make a date for 8. I think he either just wants another encounter or is blowing you off, but not trying to come off like an even bigger jerk.
And you can't be sure if this guy is married, had a tough patch with a girlfriend, or just wanted a one time deal.
If I were you, for your own sense of self worth, I would give him one chance. Don't call for a few days, and stop asking him "when are we going to see eachother" - too open ended. Then after a few days - then you make a plan - say the time and place. And that way its a yes, or no and if its a no - don't say "i am never calling you again" - just don't call again.. Maybe its more than you should do, but at least if its a no, you will have closure and can move on.
It is hard because a lot of women imagine when they find the right one they will be swept off their feet - so any guy they have some chemistry with, they become emotionally invested in and that's why you might be feeling this way. However, there is a difference being swept off your feet and KNOCKED off of them.
2007-05-21 02:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a one night stand,and he maybe thought that you realize that,but then since u emailed him,so he don't want to hurt you.My suggestion would be not having sex with a guy that you only know for the first time.Take some time if you really looking for a serious relationship ;)
2007-05-21 01:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll probably call you again when he wants another night like that i wouldn't plan on building a relationship and i'd just say o well it was a fun night and move on.
2007-05-21 01:56:35 · answer #3 · answered by kazz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, i guess he just doesnt want to hurt ur feeling, hun!
hope u didnt take it seriously.
move on if u can.........but if u r really into him, give him one last try, by telling him how u feel, if he doesnt feel the same, drop him totally and move on, at least u got an answer. and remeber, tell him to be honest, cut the "i dont want to hurt ur feeling" crap, you just want THE TRUTH. make it clear to him, k?
hope this helps! all the best!
2007-05-21 01:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by curious_vanila 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it was the last stand 4 u and with u so move on pl
2007-05-21 02:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the signs are there... Move on before he thinks you are a stalker... do not just give it up for just a one night stand....... Be more selective and have more respect for yourself....
2007-05-21 01:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say he is saying that to alot of people and is getting back to them one by one, its a booty call thats it if hes not gonna make time for you now what are the hopes for a relationship!! just drop him
2007-05-21 01:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one night stand
2007-05-21 02:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by twinkie03_1972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a one night stand
2007-05-21 01:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by olawunmi N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONE NIGHTER. If you want a relationship with someone DON'T sleep with them the first night!!!!!!
2007-05-21 01:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by candyapple58 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋