My ex would change when he was drunk which meant I had to leave him. He would drink very heavily then dwell on things I had supposedly done wrong. H ewould then shout and become physically threatening. This could sometimes become physical such as threatening me with a pint glass to cut me or throwing me out of the house onto concrete floor. He would then sober up the next day and say he couldnt remeber it and it was the alcohol not him. This happened a few times before I dumped him scard to death. He says that this is alcohol and it does this too lots of people but he wont stop drinking. do you think alcohol makes people behave out of character to this degree or it fuels the inner aggression present in a person???
2007-05-21 01:45:50 · 18 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont let anyone tell you that they don't. i'm a recoverying alcoholist for the last 18 years, and alcohol is a drug, most alcoholist like to use their " disease " as an excuse for everything they do. " i was drunk so i don't remember hitting you, or i was drunk i don't remember running over that kid in my car, or i was drunk so i don't remember i had a responsibility to go to work and suport my family." well im tired of all the excuses, if you don't KNOW how to drink then DON'T drink at all, so in reality its all an act, and i personally have no tolerance for anyone who drinks and " beats " on their spouses, because they are too lazy to face reality, and face the fact that they ARE nothing but a "street drunk " who's too lazy to work or to face their real problems in life. drunks will tell you anything to get their way, if they do it once and get away with it, they will keep on doing it, so my advice to you, is to have him get into some kind of program,just as Alcoholics Anonymous is for people who want to quit drinking, and Alcon is for their spouses to help them deal with the problems of their alcoholics spouses, so if he loved you as much as he claimed he does make him go to help " both " of you out, or dump him, cause he won't stop til you put your foot down
2007-05-21 02:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A drunk person's inhibitions are lowered when they are drunk. They will often do things that they might not normally do when they are sober, but they still pretty much know what they are doing. The consequences seems to be what is more unclear. I think that is why a lot of us make bad decisions...we had no idea they would be that bad. They aren't suddenly mindless zombies controlled by alcohol. You can tell this because there are still plenty of things they will not do. People will say things they don't mean whether they are drunk or sober just to get what they want. And of course alcohol has different effects on men women and different men and women. Two people can match each other drink for drink and behave totally differently.
2007-05-21 01:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Waner J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol definetly makes people act out of character to this degree.A lot of alcoholics tend to blank out and not know what they did. You did the right thing by leaving him. Evidently he has a lot of problems, 1st drinking too much and 2nd becoming violent towards you when you have done nothing wrong. Don't fall for his pitiful excuses, he is an alcoholic and should seek some kind of counseling before he really hurts someone.
2007-05-21 01:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by ms.redd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe a drunk person knows what they are doing while intoxicated because how else would they have the strength to brutally beat their spouse if they are that drunk. I agree that the drink intensify what they want to do anyway, which is a grudge when you act upon your thoughts with physical violence. I have dealt with an alcoholic for almost six years and they promise each time they will not drink again. And not many days after they find a way to say it is ok for them to have a drink. No one is drunk enough to physically abuse themselves so how is it you do it to someone else. It is who the person is inside anyway and the drink leads him astray. Wine is a mocker and a strong drink is a brawler and whoever is lead astray by it is not wise so that makes them a ----?
2016-05-30 03:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dolores 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They know what is going on. Its more of a window into how they really are. Alcohol has been called "truth serum". I think the guy knew what he was doing to an extent and the BS aboput I can't remember when Im drunk wont hold up in court.
2007-05-21 01:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first things first. Comfort her. Tell her you're scared of losing your relationship and you really do not want to lose her. When you're happy that she believes you on this, tell her, for your sake, and to make it possible to keep the relationship going, that you need her to stop drinking. Tell her you'll support her all the way. Tell her this is because you love her. Tell her that if she loves you she won't want to hurt you and will get professional help (which you'll have a part in if she wishes). Good luck, and I commend you for standing by her.
2016-05-18 21:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the alcohol brings out what's already there. Once an abuser always an abuser -- unless he gets sober (for a long time) and counseling -- stay away or you're asking for troouble.
Good Luck.
2007-05-21 01:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by JeffyB 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get help. This is something that cannot be fixed without professional help. I'm sorry you had to go through that, I've been with an alcoholic, and my fiancee now has a slight problem with it, so I know how scary it can be. You were right to leave him.
2007-05-21 01:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Beach Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drunk people might not be sober enough to knw what they're doing when they're drunk.
but this CANNOT be the excuse for them to become violent.
the next day, they will appologize, feel bad of what had happened, then get drunk and the same tragedy will happen all over again!
if u can't change him, leave him!
2007-05-21 01:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by curious_vanila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol does make some people aggressive, but.....
he chooses to drink, so therefore hes still responsible for whatever happens after that!!
personally, i think you should stay well away, because if you dont, youll get sucked into a pattern. and it wont be a good one. youll start forgiving each time, and itll get worse each time, then youll start making excuses for him, then who knows....regular beatings, recluse, intensive care, death???
get outta there
2007-05-21 01:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by michael f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋